Scared,
Dr.Bob is being what I call, "on the CDC bandwagon". NO, and I mean NO risk thru Woman-Woman oral. If it was, lesbians around the world would be standing in huge lines at the testing facilities. How often do you see a lesbian test for HIV? Nil. Lol........
No worries Scared....No worries....u are fine
The risk was not oral...there was no oral performed either way. The risk we are concerned about is the mutual masturbation with the woman touching herself and then masturbating my wife. That is the crux of our anxiety. Also, what concerns me is that I have read that there has been transmission of HIV through the sharing of sex toys. What is the difference between sex toys transmitting it and fingers transmitting it? They both would have had secretions on them and they both would have been exposed to the air. Or am I just off base here? Maybe I don't understand the biology involved. I think my fears are driven from the fact that I grew up in a very conservative home and went to private school all of my life where the only sex education was abstinence. Their feeling was that if you do ANYTHING you could get something.
Teak, Mike_No, Peekawho, do you have anything to add to this. You seem very knowledgeable about this subject. Tell me I'm being anxious for nothing and crazy about this supposed "no risk" event.
The virus is only found in the cervical portion of female secretions....that is why it is more common for a man to transmit the virus to a woman than vice versa. Men are still at the top of the chain....mainly because male to male sex is in such a high risk catagory.
Sun2,
I appreciate your responses. I have read some of your other posts and see that you have been in an anxious state regarding this subject before just like I am now. Regarding your last statement: What if (and I know that is a slippery slope) the other woman had her partners semen on her hands and then masturbated my wife (we don't know if she did or not). Then my wife would have been exposed to semen on the fingers and not the other womans vaginal secretions. The case you make about the vaginal secretions holds water with me but what about the semen? I know this is a crazy situation and probably pales in comparison to other peoples concerns but to me it is a real fear.
ScaredinFLA
If you can't get over this non risk fear of yours, seek the help of a mental health professional.
Thank you for your response...and for the record I am already seeing a mental health professional to deal with my OCD and paranoia. The rational part of my mind knows what my real problem is and I know when I can't handle it alone and need to get help.
I'm assuming by your response that you agree that it was a no risk situation?
ScaredinFLA
Not to be rude.....but mine was REAL fear as well. SO MUCH FEAR I damaged my health, and I actually had a risk. Not a high risk....but still a risk. So, while I help others....I am helping myself in my personal battles with HIV fear. So that is my story.
-Sun
You know. That comment was not meant for you ScaredinFLA....sorry, I meant it on another topic...lol. Sorry. =(