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Worried Encounter
Here is my situation: About 2 1/2 months ago I was at shady strip club and received a lap dance from a stripper. I had too much to drink and was not thinking properly. She was fully nude and was grinding on me through my jeans. At no point did my penis come out of my jeans. But one point she grabbed my hand and made contact with her genitals, as the dance continued, I probably touched touch her there a few more times and rubbed her vagina/clit area for a few seconds each time. My finger was never actually inserted into her. I am married with a family and have never done anything like this before.
I felt guilty and upset with what happened but I tried to put it behind me. I then had sex with my wife twice after that, I believe day 6 and day 14 after the incident. Then about 3-4 weeks later my wife came down with an extremely severe headache that lasted for around 3-4 days and then lingered around for about a week or so. At that point I was starting to get anxious and read up on things online and cant stop thinking and worrying about things. Then on top of that, about a week and half ago she got a rash on her face. Its in 1 spot and is circle, is pinkish red and maybe slightly raised. At this point I am in complete panic mode and am so worried that with her headache and rash she could have been infected with hiv. To your knowledge, could her headache 3-4 weeks after us having intercourse be ars? and the rash appearing approx 4-5 weeks later is another symptom of this? or would they appear at the same time?
I have not been able to sleep for the past 2 weeks and have lost 10lbs. I cannot stop looking online and cant help but connect everything back to hiv and this exposure. Out of total anxiety and fear I muscled up enough will to take an OraQuick swab test yesterday, this would been approx 75 days from my terrible decision at the strip club that. It was negative. I know its says 3 months to be totally conclusive but in your opinion is this good indication that i am negative? Could her symptoms be coincidence some how? Should I do different test or retest the same test? I am absolutely riddled with anxiety, guilt and depression. I have a wonderful family and am very afraid. Would appreciate to hear your educated opinions..
I felt guilty and upset with what happened but I tried to put it behind me. I then had sex with my wife twice after that, I believe day 6 and day 14 after the incident. Then about 3-4 weeks later my wife came down with an extremely severe headache that lasted for around 3-4 days and then lingered around for about a week or so. At that point I was starting to get anxious and read up on things online and cant stop thinking and worrying about things. Then on top of that, about a week and half ago she got a rash on her face. Its in 1 spot and is circle, is pinkish red and maybe slightly raised. At this point I am in complete panic mode and am so worried that with her headache and rash she could have been infected with hiv. To your knowledge, could her headache 3-4 weeks after us having intercourse be ars? and the rash appearing approx 4-5 weeks later is another symptom of this? or would they appear at the same time?
I have not been able to sleep for the past 2 weeks and have lost 10lbs. I cannot stop looking online and cant help but connect everything back to hiv and this exposure. Out of total anxiety and fear I muscled up enough will to take an OraQuick swab test yesterday, this would been approx 75 days from my terrible decision at the strip club that. It was negative. I know its says 3 months to be totally conclusive but in your opinion is this good indication that i am negative? Could her symptoms be coincidence some how? Should I do different test or retest the same test? I am absolutely riddled with anxiety, guilt and depression. I have a wonderful family and am very afraid. Would appreciate to hear your educated opinions..
It is also a waste of your time looking online reading about hiv that you don't have. Until you stop googling, you will never find peace.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (hand, vagina etc. ). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal with a penis, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv - there are ONLY 3 ways to get hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
You are wasting your time trying to connect a rash to a disease you don't have. Your test was a waste of time. You need to move on.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the WORST that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe from hiv.
The other person's status is irrelevant when you have no exposure to live virus.
You are wasting your time trying to connect a rash to a disease you don't have. Your test was a waste of time. You need to move on.
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