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Need advice for a friend.
Hi guys, hope you are all well! Haven't posted here for a long old while now. But I have a quick question to ask on behalf of a good friend who doesn't have access to a computer\internet. I couldn't give him an answer that I was sure was 100% correct, so i would be grateful if anyone could help me out.
The question is this; my friend has told me that about 18 months ago he gave\received unprotected oral sex and used a dildo on himself (not shared) to a man who's status he didn't know. Anyway. A few months later he had two HIV tests; baseline one @ 28 days and again at 88 days, which both came back as negative. He has just received an e-mail from this chap who has told him that he is HIV+.
I've done my best to reassure my friend that his risk was low to begin with and with the tests he has received with the negative results, he can be sure he is HIV-. From the the above question am I right in telling my friend that he is okay? I would be grateful for your advice. I have recommended him to you if he needs further testing. Regards.
The question is this; my friend has told me that about 18 months ago he gave\received unprotected oral sex and used a dildo on himself (not shared) to a man who's status he didn't know. Anyway. A few months later he had two HIV tests; baseline one @ 28 days and again at 88 days, which both came back as negative. He has just received an e-mail from this chap who has told him that he is HIV+.
I've done my best to reassure my friend that his risk was low to begin with and with the tests he has received with the negative results, he can be sure he is HIV-. From the the above question am I right in telling my friend that he is okay? I would be grateful for your advice. I have recommended him to you if he needs further testing. Regards.
At least the guy with HIV informed your friend, all be it after the event, like you said plenty would not do that. From what you described he sounds perfectly safe.
Heat of the moment and drink have a lot to answer for, plus the way we live. I count myself in that group, although have reconsidered everything affresh.
I suppose the main point you can take from this story is it just goes to show that you never know enough about your partner and that is often not the case when you engage in sex with someone new, so protection or not at all.
Heat of the moment and drink have a lot to answer for, plus the way we live. I count myself in that group, although have reconsidered everything affresh.
I suppose the main point you can take from this story is it just goes to show that you never know enough about your partner and that is often not the case when you engage in sex with someone new, so protection or not at all.
Yes, that was my initial thought. But because this chap has contacted him out of the blue after about 18 months, it has freaked him out a little, especially admitting that he is HIV+ (Though, Kudos for doing that because a lot wouldn't!).
Raj, yes, I'm glad he doesn't have access to the net right now. As I can remember only too well when i was in Worried Well Hell, the Net can be great for sending you half insane with fear and panic!
Raj, yes, I'm glad he doesn't have access to the net right now. As I can remember only too well when i was in Worried Well Hell, the Net can be great for sending you half insane with fear and panic!
NO need for your friend for further testing. U gave him a good advice and its good to see he doent know how to access internet--orelse he would be freaked out with all the stuff here. No test warranted after 88 days negative. God Bless
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