negative HIV test result after partner died HIV positive

[threejs]

Hi, i met my partner three years ago and was made aware that his then girlfriend was HIV positive. They have a 7 year old daughter. When we met and she informed me, it was an issue that he was battling with for years, not
discussing it with anyone or not knowing what to do. I advised him to get tested which he did early 2009 and tested negative. I advised him to have a 2nd test last year August and to have the little girl tested as well which also came back with a negative result for both of them. The partner died last year August as well. In the meantime, although we are both mindful of the exposure which he had, we have been intimate recently...not sexually but kissing and oral sex (him on me). Is it possible that after her (the girlfriend's) diagnosis in 1994 that he can be negative as both his test results shows? I am happy for that but cannot help wondering  1) how can it be  2) have i exposed myself to contracting HIV  3) how do we move forward  4) can he eventually become HIV positive ???  From her account, she was already diagnosed and aware before the relationship with him, but did not inform him.

[threejs]

Thank you sooooo much getitright77 and thank you for your wishes.

[RainLover71]

he,s conclusively negative then.If he contracted hiv from his ex-girlfriend his test results would have come back positive same with his daughter,however they both tested negative so they don,t have hiv.He,s not a carrier,everyone who is infected will have detectable antibodies by 3 months,with the only exception being chemo patients,transplant patients on meds and chronic iv drug uses.they might take longer to seroconvert.All the best.

[threejs]

Thank you...I do trust your judgement and am very relieved for us, but he has been sexually involved with her for years while she was HIV positive and even had a child together. However, after we met three years ago, he was no longer sexually involved with her from that time until her death. Is there any special reason why he is still testing negative? what would be the time frame for this window period in such a long episode of exposure? Would it be advisable for him to continue to be tested yearly or do you think it is not necessary as he has tested negative for two years respectively? I am also aware that i would need to be tested but i am sooooo scared. What is then the definition of a 'carrier' and could he be classed as one? Am so sorry, but with this, one question always lead to another....please bear with me and thank you very much for your correspondence and greatly appreciated advice.

[RainLover71]

If he used protection when engaging in penetrative vaginal or anal sex with his girlfriend then he would have never had a risk of hiv transmission.Oral sex is zero risk and his daughter is conclusively negative and so are you,however it needs to be established if he did engage in any unprotected penerative sex anytime before that test was taken in august which was the time she passed away aswell.If he didn,t he,s conclusively negative and you can all move forward.He can,t eventually become positive if he tested negative after the window period.

[CallunaRose]

Hmm...this is tricky. There is no way to escape the HIV virus. I think you should try getting tested again. I suggest calling an HIV/AIDS hotline and ask them.