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should I test again
Hi all,
in short : male, 30 years, married;
Had sex with other male (STUPID ME) august 2009;
Sexual activities were :
he to me ==> oral sex with ejaculation in his mouth, rimming, anal fingering (without lube so I started bleeding, also have hemorhoids)
me to him ==> very short oral sex, shortly touching his anus (not really fingering), masturbating
I tested after five weeks and two days with standard test (was in Belgium so I do not know what they use here). Test was negative.
However, during this year I got quite sick eight months after exposure (facial palsy) and my wife developped a rash (all her back up to her breast, very itchy, no pain, no other symptoms) that lasted for about two weeks. That was five months after my exposure.
Doctor didn't really figured out what that rash neither my facial palsy was caused by. No tests for HIV were done. Rash never came back.
My questions :
1. what was my risk (certainly considering my *** bleeding, I have no sight if his fingers were cut or not)?
2. Do I put my wife at risk or should I stop having sex with here and get tested first?
3. should I get tested again or was my five and a half weeks good enough consedering my risk?
4 could the rash be from the HIV infection I gave here (if above questions answered with yes)?
in short : male, 30 years, married;
Had sex with other male (STUPID ME) august 2009;
Sexual activities were :
he to me ==> oral sex with ejaculation in his mouth, rimming, anal fingering (without lube so I started bleeding, also have hemorhoids)
me to him ==> very short oral sex, shortly touching his anus (not really fingering), masturbating
I tested after five weeks and two days with standard test (was in Belgium so I do not know what they use here). Test was negative.
However, during this year I got quite sick eight months after exposure (facial palsy) and my wife developped a rash (all her back up to her breast, very itchy, no pain, no other symptoms) that lasted for about two weeks. That was five months after my exposure.
Doctor didn't really figured out what that rash neither my facial palsy was caused by. No tests for HIV were done. Rash never came back.
My questions :
1. what was my risk (certainly considering my *** bleeding, I have no sight if his fingers were cut or not)?
2. Do I put my wife at risk or should I stop having sex with here and get tested first?
3. should I get tested again or was my five and a half weeks good enough consedering my risk?
4 could the rash be from the HIV infection I gave here (if above questions answered with yes)?
Best Answer
You make me a little bit confused.
It is clear that I didn't tell this to my wife. I doutbed a long time for doing that but that would only jeopardize my relation and make my wife not trusting me anymore. Since it was a a one time thing I did, I decided it would be better not telling here.
Anyway, why would I get tested if I didn't had a risk? You say I would take no chanches but if there was no risk, I don't take chanches, right?
Or you'd still think there was risk?
It is clear that I didn't tell this to my wife. I doutbed a long time for doing that but that would only jeopardize my relation and make my wife not trusting me anymore. Since it was a a one time thing I did, I decided it would be better not telling here.
Anyway, why would I get tested if I didn't had a risk? You say I would take no chanches but if there was no risk, I don't take chanches, right?
Or you'd still think there was risk?
If I were your wife I would say get tested.But from a risk standpoint I would say no. Symptoms are not a good indicator, I would normally say you are fine but since theres an innocent unknowing person ( your wife ) involved, I woudl take no chances and be tested.
Hi NickOne7
thank you for your answer. I thought a little bit like that reading around but
my mind started to get crazy since I read somewhere that anal fingering with blood involved is a risk.
Than I started to think back about my facial palsy (which some sites also say that it can occur from acute hiv infection) and the rash from my wife which was never diagnosed properly.
thank you for your answer. I thought a little bit like that reading around but
my mind started to get crazy since I read somewhere that anal fingering with blood involved is a risk.
Than I started to think back about my facial palsy (which some sites also say that it can occur from acute hiv infection) and the rash from my wife which was never diagnosed properly.
1. what was my risk (certainly considering my *** bleeding, I have no sight if his fingers were cut or not)? NO RISK
2. Do I put my wife at risk or should I stop having sex with here and get tested first? Not an HIV risk
3. should I get tested again or was my five and a half weeks good enough consedering my risk? Your test is conclusive, you are HIV free
4 could the rash be from the HIV infection I gave here (if above questions answered with yes)? Read above
2. Do I put my wife at risk or should I stop having sex with here and get tested first? Not an HIV risk
3. should I get tested again or was my five and a half weeks good enough consedering my risk? Your test is conclusive, you are HIV free
4 could the rash be from the HIV infection I gave here (if above questions answered with yes)? Read above
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