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terrible sexual experience...could really use some insight
i had an experience with another man last night. i was rubbing my penis against his anus and may have penetrated slightly. i then realized that the condom had broke. could hiv have been transmitted either from the contact without penetration and or if the penetration was very slight? your qualified answer will literally help me sleep (somewhat)...
As for choosing a different lifestyle, I wouldn't say you need to do that at all. You sound as if you practice safe sex, but this time the condom broke. It can happen. Some things I might suggest:
1. Read literature on the correct use of condoms and lube, and
2. Read up on the mechanics of HIV transmission, and how to help yourself stay HIV free for life
Not that you don't know anything, of course, but just in case, it never hurts to inform oneself.
You take care of yourself.
i'm really not trying to make excuses. for whatever it may be worth, this was my first encounter with a partner of the same sex and i've almost never failed to use a condom, even in long term realtionships with my past girlfriends. i do appreciate your insight and can assure all i have learned a a great lesson here. can only hope that the ultimate result is what i hope for. as a terribly anxious person by nature, i will spend the next 2-3 months in agony...
You should choose a different lifestyle. You are way too anxious over a minor non-transmission event. The ejaculate and then masturbating is a non issue.
Insertive anal is low risk anyway, especially if it was that quick.
Insertive anal is low risk anyway, especially if it was that quick.
The use of water base lube will not cause a condom to fail. Your masterbation episoide was not a risk for HIV transmission.
thanks for your response. i used the condom properly but the fact that there was alot of lubricant used both before and after i had put it on likely caused it to break or slip off. i agree that it would seem apparent if i had penetrated, which is why i beleiev i did not but there was alot of poking whcih is why i am a bit nervous that it may have penetrated only slightly. is there a point in penetration that would expose me to serious risk. i can say with certainty this if there was penetration it was no more than a fraction of an inch, but my urethra would certainly have been inside him to some degree.
later on this experience, he ejaculated on his own stomach. reluctantly, i touched the semen with my hands, i wiped off it off, but then masturbated without my condom on. should i fear that his semen may have transmitted something in this circumstance? in retrospect, i realize how careless this all was...
later on this experience, he ejaculated on his own stomach. reluctantly, i touched the semen with my hands, i wiped off it off, but then masturbated without my condom on. should i fear that his semen may have transmitted something in this circumstance? in retrospect, i realize how careless this all was...
Your risk , as I see it, really is not warranted for HIV testing.
For starters the opposing partner would:
(1) Have to have HIV
(2) You would have to have penetrated the man for the virus to enter your urethra. (but as Dr. Bob has said many times on www.thebody, penetration needs to occur.....not just Frontage (as they call it) )
(3) the chance of transmission from a "bottom" guy to a "top" guy is 1/500 possibility (if the man WERE HIV+),...rare based on your experience, since you really did not enter his anal canal. You state: "may have penetrated slightly" Believe me, you WOULD have known it!!! lol
Rubbing your penis against his butt is not a risk...not to mention a condom was involved.
Still nervous? I wouldn't be.....but that's me...and I am gay. But no less, out of peace-of-mind, get tested. For future use, especially with gay men, get your partner's status, and not just by word alone. And ALWAYS use protection, whether it be hetero or homo sexually involved if you are unaware of their status.
I believe you will be aokay form this one-time incident!
Good Luck
B.
For starters the opposing partner would:
(1) Have to have HIV
(2) You would have to have penetrated the man for the virus to enter your urethra. (but as Dr. Bob has said many times on www.thebody, penetration needs to occur.....not just Frontage (as they call it) )
(3) the chance of transmission from a "bottom" guy to a "top" guy is 1/500 possibility (if the man WERE HIV+),...rare based on your experience, since you really did not enter his anal canal. You state: "may have penetrated slightly" Believe me, you WOULD have known it!!! lol
Rubbing your penis against his butt is not a risk...not to mention a condom was involved.
Still nervous? I wouldn't be.....but that's me...and I am gay. But no less, out of peace-of-mind, get tested. For future use, especially with gay men, get your partner's status, and not just by word alone. And ALWAYS use protection, whether it be hetero or homo sexually involved if you are unaware of their status.
I believe you will be aokay form this one-time incident!
Good Luck
B.
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