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possible HIV exposure?
Hello everyone -
I met someone in September that I started dating after a few weeks - before having sex we talked a lot about previous partners etc how long his relationships lasted. He had only had 8 sexual partners all of them except one being long-term (more than 5 months). Basically, I had NEVER had unprotected sex at that time so the first few times were always done with protection. Eventually, he brought up the question of whether or not we could stop using a condom as he had finished a serious relationship 2 months before meeting me and had been tested for everything as he had been living abroad with his ex and wanted to make sure all was clear when he got back. He also claims that they used condoms for 3 months before both being tested negative for everything.
I decided - stupid me - to trust him. We had unprotected sex about 6-8 times.Only vaginal - no anal. Everytime I asked him "were you really tested, are you lying? are you sure?" because I'm a hypochondriac and was ealising how stupid my decision was. He kept saying that I should just go ahead and take a test because it was annoying that I couldn't just relax and enjoy. He broke up with me 3 months into the relationship as things weren't working out. I felt incredibly guilty for having had sex with him.
He is from a good family, goes to one of the best unis in Europe , has not had sex with men, or prostitutes and has never used drugs. That is all I know. Do men usually lie about their STD results? I keep bugging him about it even now we broke up because I'm having anxiety attacks and he keeps on telling me to chill and that he would never sleep with someone if he had something!
Do you think I had a high-risk encounter? HELP ME PLEASE :(
I met someone in September that I started dating after a few weeks - before having sex we talked a lot about previous partners etc how long his relationships lasted. He had only had 8 sexual partners all of them except one being long-term (more than 5 months). Basically, I had NEVER had unprotected sex at that time so the first few times were always done with protection. Eventually, he brought up the question of whether or not we could stop using a condom as he had finished a serious relationship 2 months before meeting me and had been tested for everything as he had been living abroad with his ex and wanted to make sure all was clear when he got back. He also claims that they used condoms for 3 months before both being tested negative for everything.
I decided - stupid me - to trust him. We had unprotected sex about 6-8 times.Only vaginal - no anal. Everytime I asked him "were you really tested, are you lying? are you sure?" because I'm a hypochondriac and was ealising how stupid my decision was. He kept saying that I should just go ahead and take a test because it was annoying that I couldn't just relax and enjoy. He broke up with me 3 months into the relationship as things weren't working out. I felt incredibly guilty for having had sex with him.
He is from a good family, goes to one of the best unis in Europe , has not had sex with men, or prostitutes and has never used drugs. That is all I know. Do men usually lie about their STD results? I keep bugging him about it even now we broke up because I'm having anxiety attacks and he keeps on telling me to chill and that he would never sleep with someone if he had something!
Do you think I had a high-risk encounter? HELP ME PLEASE :(
you are right - which is where my hypochondria plays in because I know I did wrong. Lesson learnt - I'm just praying to god I am not going to test positive for one mistake
it's so confusing because i read on so many forums that the chances are pretty low if the person is from a low-risk group! I really really hope I can trust him and he didn't lie about his tests. I'm so scared to go into a clinic - since I'm a hypochondriac I just keep playing the worst case scenario in my head of having to tell my family I did one stupid mistake in my life and I am now HIV+.
Heterosexuals contact HIV like everyone else. You can't look at anyone and tell if they have HIV or not and the only way to know your status is by testing.
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