hiv scare

[lee329]

hi, about two weeks ago my boyfriend and I had two broken condoms in less than a week. I told him to go get tested and that I would do the same, but since I was a virgin before I met him I did it just because I felt that if he has to get tested so do I. Anyways he told me he got a urine analysis and blood work done which included a hiv test. If he hasnt cheated on me ( I dont believe he has) he would have been well and truly over the 3 months mark since his last sexual partner. About 3 days later he messaged me to let me know all his test results came back negative and obviously mine did as well. But I have been getting some really weird symptoms like a rash all over my body including me arms and legs, its not very noticeable most of the times but it is like little red dots and they can become quite itchy and when I scratch the rash does become more obvious, and I have also developed a sore throat and am constantly tired, and today I have had the worst diarrhea I have had in a long time, I actually had to call in sick to work. I have had swollen lymph nodes for about 8 months now and the doctors dont know what the cause it but if you look in one of my previous posts I preformed oral sex and a few weeks after my lymph nodes came up but I got tested even though it was a no risk just for piece of mind and obviously it was all negative. I know I have a fear of HIV since I spent amy first 12 years of my life in different African countries and HIV/AIDS is very prevalent there so it has always been a fear of mine. My question is should I just believe my boyfriend and trust that he did have the tests done and they came back negative?He sent me a copy of the message that the nurse messaged to his phone that said all his test came back negative. Maybe he just told me he had a HIV test done when he didnt...And I dont want to ask him again because I dont want him to think that I think he has it or he is lying it is just that I am so scared of this. Or should I just get tested after 6 weeks and if I get a negative be happy with that a believe that he was honest with me? I am sorry for the long message but I just dont know how to approach this situation and I dont really have anyone to talk to about this because I am scared of being judged. ps he is in the army and I know they do hiv tests every few months or so I think it is 6 and I was told they get kicked out if they have HIV is this true? sorry again and thank you any advice would be appreciated.  

[lee329]

Thankyou both for the reply, I know I have some anxiety issues and I will be taking to my doctor about that, thankyou sometimes hearing it from someone else just makes it a bit more clear. I just have another question for teak, so you believe that I should get tested, is this because of my symptoms after exposure? Or just because it is standard procedure?

[OrionB]

I know. Just trying to direct the OP down the right path to help resolve her issues.

[Teak]

This forum is HIV specific.

[OrionB]

Hello lee329

I am sure the symptoms you describe are being caused by the extreme anxiety you are suffering as a result of the "what if" questions you are asking, and in my experience the answers to "what if" questions always end in the worst way.

You said that you got tested and all was negative. So that should be that. If you choose to test again I am sure it will be negative again. But when will this all stop? After every exposure with your partner the same old "what if" questions will arise again leading to more tests.

My advise is to speak with your partner about your anxiety and fears. It would be a good idea for both of you to see your doctor and find the best way forward to address your anxiety and get treatment sooner rather than later for this anxiety and the obtrusive thoughts.

[Teak]

You don't rely on what someone else tells you, it's your health and you test to know your status.