How do you tell your love one about your status?

[confuseguy]

It's been one week since my doc confirmed my Hep B status. I am still trying to deal with it. I told myself that I will accept it as it is because I knew there's a pretty good chance I had it as a baby. Well, I am still having a tough time dealing with it right now. It's been a roller coaster ride for me the last month.

The next step is to tell my gf about my hep B status next weekend.

I don't know what my viral load is right now. Tests are still pending.

I still don't know how I will tell her. How would you guys approach telling your signifcant other? Thanks.

[shawzam]

This is a tough time for you, but you can get through this.  The scriptures say, "and it came to pass." they never once say, "and it came to stay".   I'm thinking of you and hoping for the best.  

[confuseguy]

thanks guys. I guess we'll see next week.

over a month ago, life was so pleasant and i was running around chasing other things in life. then the train stop last month.

[stevenNYer]

How about:

Four score and 2 weeks ago our doctors brought forth this HepB panel, a new set of labs, conceived in proteins, and dedicated to the proposition of finding out our HepB status.....

.....uh never mind, go with Meki's suggestion, second by Zelly.

Really....lossen up....if your relationship is meant to be...it be alright.  Good luck.

[cajim]

>>>Have faith in a good woman.<<<

So true!

[zellyf]

I like Meki's approach.  Its straight-forward and loving.  Its doesn't suggest that you think she's not up to the task.  You don't want to question her commitment to you right off the bat.  And Meki took what you were thinking and boiled it down: I didn't know how to tell you.  End of story.  

Have faith in a good woman.  

[cajim]

See!  Girls give the perfect advice.  If you use meki's method, you've got to be ok.

[meki]

How about -- -holding the paper out...

Looking at her

And saying --- I got this back last week --- and I didn't know how to tell you.

I think you need to get tested.

I love you - and I think you might be safe because you were vaccinated. But I don't know.

And we'll have to figure out how to keep your antibodies up and perfect.

But I love you... And I needed to tell you.

[cajim]

Girls are often more sensible, more devoted in love, and more caring than boys, at least in my case: when we learned that I had HBV, my wife is the calmer, knowing-what-to-do one,"We will do what needs to be done.  I am forever your wife."

As Peteshine says, "the reaction from your gf will be much better than you imagined."

Best wishes.

[confuseguy]

Thanks guys. I will tell her but I just don't know how to get started.

[Peteshine]

Hello mate,

i can appreciate it is so difficult to not only find out you have Hep B but also to have to tell your loved one as well. I was in the same siuation as you, in regards to having to tell my gf. However, it never crossed my mind not to tell her coz' it just wouldn't be fair if you see yourself having a future with her... Tell her and definately make sure she gets the relevant tests... Believe me it will be the best thing to do and i bet the reaction from your gf will be much better than you imagined... How are your siblings dealing with Hep b? Take care.

[zellyf]

Sigh...I meant "Not only will it be good for HER".  Sorry.

[zellyf]

I don't know if there is a "good" chance.  There is a chance.  Her need to know and get tested overrides your other concerns.  Ask yourself how you would want to be treated if you positions were reversed.  Do that.

I was married and pregnant when I found out.  I never considered not telling my spouse. I'm not sure if that's different but given that you have been living together for a long time I'm not sure that it should be.  Good luck.