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233616 tn?1312787196

caregivers the unsung heroes

what helps you to keep your caregiver from being discouaged. Like when I moan uncontollably in my sleep and he just stands there looking helpless for an hour. what works to give them some relief, cause it seems like this is wearing him down more than me sometimes. He feels helpless.
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233616 tn?1312787196
double whammy on you!! Know the feeling...and especially if you like all the charity work and being the one others lean on, then suddenly you can't do the christmas drive or even get grams to the doc...it's a very helpless feeling, being out of control.
But, there's also a grace that comes to others when they do help you, they grow as people....and, you really do find out who your friends are.
Sometimes, I find I just have to say what I need or how I'm really feeling, and someone almost always offers to help....it's just not wanting to take advantage, but when you really need the help ask for it...you may find out more people care than you knew.
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168246 tn?1212063254
Caregiver?  I take care of and elderly couple on weekends.  My kids are grown, but Mom is there when they need something.  Husband who spends day and night on computer, I do everything at our fraternal organization.  Help local school district with distributing food for holiday season.  Seems no one wants to step up even when I ask. I have friends that tell me just say no.  Well then who would get it done?  My New Year's resolution is to "say no".  Then have to learn the "no guilt".  I'm am 5 weeks into treatment and finally getting "tired".  Time to slow down.  Maybe guardian angel "caregiver" will show up soon.
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233616 tn?1312787196
you are funny!!1    Well, at least you'll get some sympathy in here moa...and don't forget, your little friend is probably glad that at least if he has to stand with his feet in the snow to go....you're there for him....guess we all feel like the dog some of the time.    it's worse though with nothing to do....
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229003 tn?1193701924
Cape Breton is beautiful - My husband and I are buying land in NC due to the CND going up...I never heard of Sorels and I have lived here in Canada for 10 years LOL  But boots are not something I like
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"what is sorels?" Sorel boots, the pride of Canada....err China..
PS: I own some land on the northern tip of Cape Breton Island..Due to the C$'s strength, and paying in US$'s,my property taxes have gone up about 30% in the last few years...
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233616 tn?1312787196
what the heck kinda program doesn't cover drugs....
sheesh and this is where the US wants to go??

the thing is, once you start buying the side dishes to really be insured you are back to a free market system aren't you??

Glad you got help from 3 rivers/roche but it seems so wacky to have to go hat in hand for the new and only treatment. I hope to heck we state side never adopt Canada's "solutions".
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233616 tn?1312787196
well, I don't know how we got to dog poo on this one, but it was surely a healthy side dish.
free fertilizer....see now that makes all the difference doesn't it.
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206807 tn?1331936184
One of the advantages of living in South Louisiana. It still is in the mid 70s and I can just run it over with the lawn mower.
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229003 tn?1193701924
what is sorels?
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"LOL you got that backwards - the CND hit 1.05 today to the USD $1.00 - but as of a few hours ago the CND is back to $1.03 to the USD - for the first time in 40 years the CND is higher than the USD" And Sorels use to be made in Canada too--not any more, guess things do change!
Pro
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232778 tn?1217447111
It is easier said than done re routine, but keeping busy does make time fly faster I think. I get more sympathy for being sick at work oddly enough (I shut my office door when I am a bit miserable)  :-)
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264121 tn?1313029456
I'm trying to do that routine as normal thing too.  I'll let you know how it works out...
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232778 tn?1217447111
forgot to mention - there is a standown period in Canada for insurance (at least in Alberta). In my case, it was 6 months (both for Blue Cross or Work insurance). As I was acute, and needed to treat fast to maximise possibility of positive result, the drug company Roche helped out and covered my first 3 months of treatment, until work insurance kicked in.

The drug company programs are pretty good in my experience, and worth checking out.
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232778 tn?1217447111
That's what I try to tell my wife Merrybe. But one we get snow in Edmonton, it stays till Spring next year. Last year, this went from October 8 to about April. When the snow melts - it is not that pleasent as the poo melts too. Some people train their dogs to use a certain area of the yard, but our dog is too dumb (or we are too lazy) :-)

My wife gives me zero sympathy for me re being tired / lazy / brain fog, but maybe this is for the best. No point in feeling sorry for myself, best for me probably to try to keep routine as normal as possible (including the doggie doo).
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233616 tn?1312787196
why not just kick more snow on them?? then when they're good and frozen go back and grab em with a leaf pic...........gives new meaning to sh on a stick! .
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233616 tn?1312787196
ok, well, there's always thinking of the cat as a caregiver....they really do cuddle when we're sick....lot of comfort.

but back to human beings....just thinking of how to keep them from running screaming....even if I do manage to clean myself and chucks up, it doesn't mean our mates/kids, if we have any, don't get worn down doing all the heavy lifting while we get what looks like a vacation on the couch.

granted is you are at the exploding inside stage, it's not much of a fun trip.....
(and to think as a kid the couch was Pan Am flight 109 and took me to every exotic place)
but I can see physical weariness in MY caregiver.....and I'm sure friends, or county services who help have their own versions of discouragement.

I guess I was looking for who has ideas of how to help them cope. (feeling like the Riba raves take their toll too on them)......
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232778 tn?1217447111
It doesn't cover drugs in most Provinces. But, most Provinces have subsidised insurance, which can be obtained for around $30 per month, even with existing condition. In Alberta, Blue Cross will cover combo therapy, but not Eprix (my works insurance would cover if I had needed it).
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264121 tn?1313029456
Littermaid is way cool.  this is my 2nd machine.  Got the first ten years ago right after the cats.

MOA - That's the Riba for ya.
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315996 tn?1429054229
So, what do Canadians have to pay for curing hep c? Isn't everyone on a national health care system?
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315996 tn?1429054229
Caregiver? I don't even have an "in case of emergency" person. Haven't started treatment, but I am really getting worried. Daughter is never around since I quit paying child support last December (she's 25).
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232778 tn?1217447111
whoops, you are right, mixed up. $1 CDN = $1.05 US. Too confusing for brain fogged mind.
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232778 tn?1217447111
I should have put = not too. Yes, it dropped down a little again. You really will be able to "Blame Canada" soon though (aka South Park), as we will own you soon the way things are going:-)
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229003 tn?1193701924
how do you like that litter maid thingee?
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229003 tn?1193701924
LOL you got that backwards - the CND hit 1.05 today to the USD $1.00 - but as of a few hours ago the CND is back to $1.03 to the USD - for the first time in 40 years the CND is higher than the USD
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