These suggestions to sher really help me also. As you may know I'm in week 8 and my hubby's in week 2. I think we are both kinda walking on eggshells around each other so far. He's being sort of rough on my 17 year old son but, sometimes he needs it and he's got that typical teenage mouth on him. I told him it's not a real good time to be asserting himself!
I do try to keep more distance between all of us at this point. Sher, I know it's real hard, just remember it's only temporary.
Cuteus...No there probably wasnt, I have been on edge more than maybe in my life. I e'd you some details. Dont worry about starting anything. I need more help on the Tx than anything.
Cali....Thanks very much on the explanation of the feelings Mr Billy is having. I am trying to understand. I went to bed last night and slammed the door after being berated by him all night.I know its hard for you guys.Jezzz when is it we got to be adults , I thought life was gonna be easier.What you describe sounds like a horror show and a bad LSD trip!
Honey...Thanks I named her Olivia Pearl after my Grandmother. She is as beautiful as her name. I adopted her at birth.
Over there/Over here?
What are you guys talking about?
Is a discussion at a different forum, that should be continued at the source, to spare this forum of new or continuing spats.
It was important to me as I am not posting over there anymore and felt it important Rev knew Billy was NOT drinking. Vindictivness was not any part of it. If Billy and I are to be helped over here over there wherever I want you to have the facts.
These are nasty powerful drugs we're taking, the effects come on early and fast and keep on coming on, a little this, a little that, now 3 or 4 unpleasant things at once, now a little reprieve for a few hours or a day...and then BAM again. Billy is feeling such nervous irritability that he probably can't stand being in his own skin at times, so he starts snapping and snarling like a rabid dog. Perfectly understandable, but terrible for him and just as bad for you and Olivia.
The stuff is neurotoxic. His central nervous system is being overstimulated and he's feeling like he's at the end of a long speed run. No es bueno! Mama's gotta make sure he's taking a s**t load of B-vitamins and magnesium because he's being stripmined by the riba and needs to replace these things. A gram daily of magnesium (w/ equivalent amounts of calcium, always keep them in balance) is not too much under these circumstances. As for B's, I'll just offer my own example. No doubt I'm a lot smaller than Billy, but here's my own approach: in addition to my multivitamin which has good amounts of B-complex, I'm taking a balanced B- Complex-125 (everything's at 125 mg, folic acid's at 800 mcg) twice daily. I still feel the nervous effects of tx, sometimes more than others, but overall I'm steering a steady course. Personally I can feel the calming effects of magnesium right away.
And staying away from refined sugar would be a good thing right now.
Anyway, see if these things help. I see how people are doing on tx in local support meetings, and the ones who are being very careful with nutrition and diet and doing much, much better overall.
Do you all have access to a hot tub or a mineral springs? And as for aromatherapy for nervous irritability, lavender is extremely calming. I took aromatherapy only half seriously until I entered treatment, and then discovered that there IS actually something to it.
Really hopes this helps. Irritable partners--you should see my guy with even just a tad of low blood sugar--madre de dios--can be very trying....
I understand that point Sher, was it neccessary to say more than:"and felt it important Rev knew Billy was NOT drinking."?
that is what I'm referring about. But I will stop at this answer so as not to start anything at this board.
You stay well.
I don't have any qualms with you, but I feel that bringing that matter over here was uncalled for and borders on vindictiveness.
I wish you and Billy an easier tx trip very soon.
Reading your posts i find it difficult to pin down something that may be of use from my own experiences of tx. I was a PIG and i knew it at the time. I have 2 girls 2yrs & 4yrs and despite my love for them i used to get to the stage when i thought everthing they and my wife did was a vendetta against me for being ill. When they left me alone i hurt not being with them, when they were about i just wanted to be left alone or yell that they "DONT UNDERSTAND WHAT I'M GOING THROUGH".
As was said above you just want get out of a body that's going over the edge. I drove like the devil,untold road rage, stareted carrying weapons,then like a puppy pleading my wife to forgive. Not everyone gets as mean but some of us start with short fuses.
Well in the end my wife did tread on eggshells and made big changes in her tolerance of my behaviour because she was commited to seeing it through, did her homework and if things had gone beyond what she was preparared to put up with she(& kids)would have gone. You just have to ask yourself "how far am i prepared to go in this relationship and stay safe". It will never be easy.
As for the drink bit, surely again, do you except that it's ok to drink while on tx? Not wether anyone else dose,they will always be able to justyfy their position. This is about what you will put up with. It's you in your relationship with your family and dealing with the impact tx is having.
Hope this makes some sense. I hope you do what is right for you shamelessly
Mr S Hall relationship councerlor NOT
as i posted you b4 over there,agree say yes dear your right dear.REMEMBER, its the meds not the guy and you love the guy not the meds and hey like chevster said let him e me I know what it is like and would be willing to help for that sexy little wet suit wearing moonette :-)
DErailizer
Well, I have been thru tx 3 times, and my hubby has one time.........even tho I had two prior tx experiences...and knew what it felt like, I still had a very difficult time being on the "receiving end" and being understanding when hubby tx'd....It is very confusing for both the "patient" and the spouse. The first time I did tx, sex was a big issue in our house.....my hubby just did not understand my non-existant drive...was horrible...he felt rejected and frustrated....and did not understand the lack of desire (and all that other ****).....the second time I tx'd, we understood all of that better...plus each time I was a caretaker to my mom...so I do not even remember "living" a life then....Then hubby tx'd....well, I felt like the one "left outside looking through the window"...I knew from my own experience what he was going through, but it was difficult to keep that thought in mind when I wanted to........well, I do not believe in physical harm, but boy, my mind was reeling...LOL..I cried alot then....I prayed alot....and I did a lot of my writing again.....he worked his full time schedule as well....WOW... he is one tuff bird.....Now, this last time I tx'd...we are pro's....ONE THING THAT I KNOW IS:::: as the "patient" again...I did want hubby to agree with me all the time....AND....hugs are very important.....
When an arguement or disagreement comes up...no matter how much fire and smoke was coming out of my ears..when hubby hugged me and said "I love you, it will be okay"....I melted, and it brought me back..........he even cried with me a few times.....
No matter how upset Mr. Billy makes you.....inside he is crying for understanding....he may not be able to express that (it comes out as being down right $#@&*%$ sometimes, and that is scarey for everyone)........even when you want to kick his butt to the curb...give him a hug, a kiss.....and say I wish I could make you feel better....it goes a long way......Good luck, lady........(I used to scream in my pillow when hubby was on tx):>) Love ya.
what wonderful suggestions to a friend in need.
WOW You never cease to Amaze me! I really thought I was prepared. Listen to all of you. Your words penetrate to my soul.Ease my torment. Showboat you humble me with your experience.You and Honey both Tx or Txed and so has your husbands.My total admiration and you all are so gracious, lessons I am trying to learn. Even you my Sammy have given generous peace to my inner being. I will take all the advice and try even harder to show tolerece. {I have never had much, but don't tell anyone thats a secret} LOL..I love you all!
Just wondering about the Riba Rage again. OLD MR BILLY is not like suicidal,or that kind of depression but Jezzz he is soooo very mean.I just want to take Olivia to Mexico until this is over { I won't I just feel like it}. Olivia and I are walking on egg shells, he is so nasty about everything we do or say. I didnt think it would be this bad. 44 more weeks ohhhhhhhhh....Pass the xanax!
Also does anyone know what drawing up 4.1 on the syringe , what is that does of Peg?
MR BILLY is NOT drinking REV, I was debating with Befud, since she does drink on Tx, My view is why bother doing Tx if you can't stop for thr TX time but Befud has lots of litature over there prooving me wrong, Question I asked her to proove was..Do you know anyone who achieved SVR while drinking? Of course she has ALL the answers in print over there.