The lost of some members , a reason for concern............

[Mister beagle bailey]

Just read the post by 52tele about not returning to the forum.  Since the thread was maxed out, I decided to start this one instead of taking away from someone else's thread.

Tele I'm sorry you won't be posting anymore and wish you will still return here when you need too.
I do agree that there are some here that seems to attack others, or post things that offend others.  Who knows why some members do this, maybe riba rage, maybe feeling ill or maybe it's just their personality.  
However, this forum has been a life saver for me and others, as I'm 4 weeks post tx I'm not on as much as I use to be but I'm still here to try and help those who need it, like I did.
Some times we all need to ignore those that post things we don't agree with or dislike and try to understand where it's coming from.  Some just want to hurt some here and others just want to get a rise out of us.

I just hope that we don't lose any more members because of this.  This forum has helped many and needs to continue to do so.

May the stronge continue to carry the weak through this ride of a life time called tx..........May God speed and show use away to over come this.

Beagle :)

[Dale_Ray]

If you leave and don't return over some people with mental problems - they win! Just recommend they go to the mental health section of Medhelp. That is obviouly where several need to be. Just don't fuel and idiot's fire. Tele52 you've been a good addition to the forum and shown great compassion for people. We lose if you go. Dale

[NYgirl]

And how do you think we would have learned anything if not for folks like you and Jim and Cuteus...?  It's our turn as the "new old timers" to pay back what you so GENEROUSLY gave to us.

The times I just felt like giving up = how easy it was to look to a few special people and say wow...after all they've done for me how could I do that?

There will always be problem people on forums...we just have to ignore them (which for girls like you and me is almost impossible...we are sure not shy wall flowers are we?)

Debby

My hemo might be down to 9 again but my spirit is high so that is what matters.  :)  I didn't mind coming to work today because with the heat outside...it's much better to be here in the morgue freezing to death!

[way]

i am doin fine thx for askin. Gonna go off to bed here --gotta get up early for work. Hope you are doin ok as well...Good night!

[Mister beagle bailey]

Thanks for the info and I think your right about who it is.  Everyone here needs help, some more then others and when someone like that posts it turns people away.  Now I understand what is going on and it's sad.  I hope the newbies don't stop posting questions because of this.  How are you doing?

Beagle

[NYgirl]

I just want to say that as long as I"ve been here there have been two very different types of arguments.  One where it is a disagreement and the people involved would NEVER take it personally at ALL - and the 'other' where people ARE condescending and mean spirited know it alls.

It is VERY difficult to avoid the second type. I don't know what happened but personally I found 52 TELE to be a GREAT addition to this forum and it really bothers me that without even reading I can assume it's the same old same old.

TELE don't let ANYONE chase you off this forum!  We NEED YOU as much as you need US.

You have to nkow and understand that.

Please talk to me or my evil twin Beagle...we don't want ;you to go!

(PS I didn't even read the rest of the thread because once I read Beagles post my eyes turned so RED that fire started shooting out!)

[mikesimon]

I have been coming to this board since 2002. Some of the things that were said back then would make what goes on today look like a love-in. Yea I know, I've been here a long time. I can recall back in the day a guy telling sick folks that they must not love Christ or they would be healed. This stuff went on daily as well as vulgar crude insults and name calling. He finally got bared or just went away. The point I am making is that when you get a lot of people together there are going to be creeps, "know it alls", kind and intellegent people and scared and uninformed people. Our job here, as in life, is to sort the good from the bad. While I hate nastiness it doesn't trouble me nearly as much as misinformation does. Nastiness is obvious and we can simply ignore it but misinformation is not as obvious and it can influence members to act in ways that are detrimental to their health. When it comes to solid information this board is far and away the best forum I have found. I have learned so much from my experience here and I continue to learn. Back in 2002 and 2003 and even early 2004 people here didn't know a fraction of what most of what our current members know and I felt is was my responsibility back then to educate. But now, there are so many well informed members that I know I am not needed for educational purposes except in very rare circumstances, and maybe not even then. But, I come here to learn and add support and share in our triumphs as well as our dispair. Some people will leave and new members will come but this place will endure because it is essentially the best place we have. I, for one, am so glad I found Medhelp and I can deal with the occasional creep or "know it all" as long as the information is sound and it is for the most part. Mike