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life and a cup of coffee what i didn't finish
when things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar... and a cup of coffee..
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked his students if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
So, he then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls He then asked again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The prof. next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. Again he asked if the jar was full and the students replied with a unanimous YES. The professor then produced 2 cups of coffee from under the table and poured the contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed ..
NOW, said the prof, as the laughter subsided, I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.The golf balls are the important things... your faith, family,children, health friends,passions.. things that if everything else was lost and only they remained;your life would still be full..
The pebbles arethe other things that matter ;like your job, house and car. the sand is everything else ... the small stuff.
If you put the sand into the jar first,he continued; there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked his students if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
So, he then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls He then asked again if the jar was full. They agreed it was.
The prof. next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. Again he asked if the jar was full and the students replied with a unanimous YES. The professor then produced 2 cups of coffee from under the table and poured the contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed ..
NOW, said the prof, as the laughter subsided, I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.The golf balls are the important things... your faith, family,children, health friends,passions.. things that if everything else was lost and only they remained;your life would still be full..
The pebbles arethe other things that matter ;like your job, house and car. the sand is everything else ... the small stuff.
If you put the sand into the jar first,he continued; there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.
If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have roomfor the things that are important to you.Pay attention to the things that are critcal to your happinessPlay with the kids. Take the time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. PLay another 18
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.
Take care of the golfballs first, the things that really matter. Set your Priorities.,the rest is just sand.
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented
The professor smiled I'm glad you asked It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there is always room for a cuople of cups of coffee with a friend...!!!
THIS IS THE POST I STARTED ON SUNDAY I HAVE LIVED THIS ADAGE EVER SINCE MY UNIVERSITY DAYS AND IS WHERE MY #1 AND#2 rules arise(1 dont sweat the small things, 2 they are all small things) Ironic that I started posting this Last sunday and that was a day where all you , my friends shared my grief and prayed for my family and I .I left a message for all at the end of that thread and hope all will see it
Again I state thankyou and hope that this story will help any that need it Daryl
There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.
Take care of the golfballs first, the things that really matter. Set your Priorities.,the rest is just sand.
One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented
The professor smiled I'm glad you asked It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there is always room for a cuople of cups of coffee with a friend...!!!
THIS IS THE POST I STARTED ON SUNDAY I HAVE LIVED THIS ADAGE EVER SINCE MY UNIVERSITY DAYS AND IS WHERE MY #1 AND#2 rules arise(1 dont sweat the small things, 2 they are all small things) Ironic that I started posting this Last sunday and that was a day where all you , my friends shared my grief and prayed for my family and I .I left a message for all at the end of that thread and hope all will see it
Again I state thankyou and hope that this story will help any that need it Daryl
hey lady my friend you jumped the gun on me I don't type fast enough to beat your comments but hey that's OK we were having a coffee break The service is this pm and i am having a personal space break.. the tears were running down my cheeks as i finished typing this adage yes we need to take the time not to just smell the roses; but to really look at them and enjoy them for they are with us too short a time ..Thanks
I just found and read all your previous posting and need to respond and let you know how deeply I feel for you, Judy and all your family. I am so sorry you are going through this and wish you and everyone my very best. Just know I care and will be thinking of you.
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Couch
Thanks, derail, for wasting yet another one of our limited questions today. You truly do derail this hep c lifeline with irrelevant jokes and inane blather.
Please, please, please consider the relevancy of what you're writing the next time you chose to waste another thread on this forum. Some of us need to post REAL questions and get real information here. There are plenty of other forums with unlimited posts for jokes and non hepatitis c converstions.
Please, please, please consider the relevancy of what you're writing the next time you chose to waste another thread on this forum. Some of us need to post REAL questions and get real information here. There are plenty of other forums with unlimited posts for jokes and non hepatitis c converstions.
That was a little harsh and uncalled for. Is it a bad riba day for you or something? I think Daryl's post was very supportive for a lot of us Hep C people and that's what this forum is for - SUPPORT and questions. Things look a little slow today so far, and Daryl has gone through a personal crisis recently. I think he was just reaching out to share his grief and to let us all know what is important. Have some consideration. It may be you next that would like a little support. If you have a question, post it. It will be responded to. Like my beloved granny used to say, "If you can't say something nice, then simply sit and be quiet."
I'm one who generally ignores threads not directly related to hep c but I really liked your post. Mike
Sorry but I don't see the point of posting thread after thread of so-called cheerful jokes and old and hackneyed inspirational stories. This is a hep c MED HELP forum and it's selfish to use up so many threads with Friday Funnies, coffee??, and posts TOTALLY unrelated to our condition.
When I first found this place I was desparate for information and found alot of wonderful and knowledgable people here. There were days when I was unable to post questions because the threads were all taken, or add comments and questions because each thread was filled. So, I view the repeated posting of non hep c related stuff as a waste of space.
Derail, please ask yourself "Is this relevent to hep c" before you use up one of our threads next time. Please........?
When I first found this place I was desparate for information and found alot of wonderful and knowledgable people here. There were days when I was unable to post questions because the threads were all taken, or add comments and questions because each thread was filled. So, I view the repeated posting of non hep c related stuff as a waste of space.
Derail, please ask yourself "Is this relevent to hep c" before you use up one of our threads next time. Please........?
Derail, I share your grief with you and thank you for this post. I try to live by the same belief of don't sweat the small stuff, but still need to be reminded some times.
Newb- That was pretty harsh don't you think? Just a reminder that someday you might want to use a thread when you are down, I just hope that noone jumps on you for it. Remember first and foremost this is a support group forum here and right now derail needed support.
Newb- That was pretty harsh don't you think? Just a reminder that someday you might want to use a thread when you are down, I just hope that noone jumps on you for it. Remember first and foremost this is a support group forum here and right now derail needed support.
Derail:::: I thought that was just beautiful. I had tears in my eyes. This reading is something that COMFORTS ME, as I have just been diag as not clearing...on my 3m PCR. Your words are uplifting and has always been a support for many here, and I am so glad that we had and have the chance to return your compassion, support, humor and love.
Newb;:::All aspects of life are lived in balance. This is a support forum.....this is part of the "balance" If you take a pencil and draw a circle and divide it into sections that this forum covers it would quite possibly read:
* Sharing Hep C information
* Asking Questions
* Sharing SUPPORT IN ALL WAYS
* Being able to cry out on the bad days (which I believe, you just did, and this forum is part of that too)
* Sharing experiences...good bad and ugly....
* Friendship (and friends share laughter, tears, compassion and trials and tribulations.........
***********Remember************
You can always post a question in another post, just write the topic in the "To" column......
I do also agree that you are rather harsh in your words to Derail....He has suffered such a deep loss in his Brother's very recent passing....I consider him my friend. If a person cannot share such deep pain with his friends (even though we are invisible friends) what type of emotional release is that.... that is part of our HEP C Bond......
I am here for YOU too....we ALL are....
As been stated by so many before, there are many Hep sites that deal with just the facts, some gloom and doom and many that do as MedHelp does SHARE SUPPORT AND LAUGHTER.
There are many out there....I visit a few as many do....perhaps you can enjoy MedHelp for what it is and perhaps by doing some searching, you can balance out some different avenues of information with other sites as well as MedHelp. I have been reading MedHelp for over one year and it has always been this way.............at least since I have been here....that is why I choose to stay.
Peace
Newb;:::All aspects of life are lived in balance. This is a support forum.....this is part of the "balance" If you take a pencil and draw a circle and divide it into sections that this forum covers it would quite possibly read:
* Sharing Hep C information
* Asking Questions
* Sharing SUPPORT IN ALL WAYS
* Being able to cry out on the bad days (which I believe, you just did, and this forum is part of that too)
* Sharing experiences...good bad and ugly....
* Friendship (and friends share laughter, tears, compassion and trials and tribulations.........
***********Remember************
You can always post a question in another post, just write the topic in the "To" column......
I do also agree that you are rather harsh in your words to Derail....He has suffered such a deep loss in his Brother's very recent passing....I consider him my friend. If a person cannot share such deep pain with his friends (even though we are invisible friends) what type of emotional release is that.... that is part of our HEP C Bond......
I am here for YOU too....we ALL are....
As been stated by so many before, there are many Hep sites that deal with just the facts, some gloom and doom and many that do as MedHelp does SHARE SUPPORT AND LAUGHTER.
There are many out there....I visit a few as many do....perhaps you can enjoy MedHelp for what it is and perhaps by doing some searching, you can balance out some different avenues of information with other sites as well as MedHelp. I have been reading MedHelp for over one year and it has always been this way.............at least since I have been here....that is why I choose to stay.
Peace
Well, we certainly wouldn't want to "waste space" allowing someone to grieve because it just may not be related to Hep C. That might just be a little bit too compassionate and we wouldn't want to be compassionate to anything other than Hep C here, would we? After all we have Hep C. What else in life is there to talk about but Hep C? Let's make sure that anyone and everyone on this forum sticks strictly to Hep C and nothing else in their life that might affect them, because God knows, all we obsess about is Hep C and we have absolutely nothing else going on except Hep C and we can talk about nothing but Hep C. You need to show a little compassion and like Daryl says - don't sweat the small stuff.
I'm not quite sure why your posts have annoyed me like no others on here, and maybe I am the one that is having a bad riba day. But, I hope I never get to the point of obsessing about Hep C so that I can't be compassionate to someone for something else that may be important to them other than Hep C.
As I said earlier, if you have a question, post it. I'm sure you will find a lot of compassionate people here happy to answer it for you. But please, make sure it only has to do with Hep C and nothing else that may be going on in your life. That would just be a "waste".
I'm not quite sure why your posts have annoyed me like no others on here, and maybe I am the one that is having a bad riba day. But, I hope I never get to the point of obsessing about Hep C so that I can't be compassionate to someone for something else that may be important to them other than Hep C.
As I said earlier, if you have a question, post it. I'm sure you will find a lot of compassionate people here happy to answer it for you. But please, make sure it only has to do with Hep C and nothing else that may be going on in your life. That would just be a "waste".
You are in my thoughts and prayers today as I know its a tough one!! You are awesome and have been a great friend to me through this bad period of tx...Keep just being you because that is what I love so much!! ((((hugs))))
Hi BABY, Glad you posted! I have been thinking about you the last few days. You remain in my prayers and thoughts. I too am printing that post for my family!
HUGERZZZZZ DERAIL !!!
HUGERZZZZZ DERAIL !!!
I bet you grit your teeth when you see my name because I'm one of those people who tries--TRIES, mind you--to leaven the grimly serious stuff with jokes and wise cracks.
Newb, try to imagine you're watching a tv drama or reading a short story and this is the plot line: A guy is regaling his friends with a good joke, and then someone enters the room, whispers into his ear and informs him that his beloved younger brother just died. The joke freezes on his face.
That's exactly what just happened here.
No one here is a research automaton--well, at least not all of the time. We are all living, breathing, suffering human beings with real lives. I just hope that someday you will feel safe enough to come forward with the specific stuff that's bothering you and share it with the group when you need to. I'm sure you will find that the outpouring of compassion and understanding will be the sweetest balm in the world.
Newb, try to imagine you're watching a tv drama or reading a short story and this is the plot line: A guy is regaling his friends with a good joke, and then someone enters the room, whispers into his ear and informs him that his beloved younger brother just died. The joke freezes on his face.
That's exactly what just happened here.
No one here is a research automaton--well, at least not all of the time. We are all living, breathing, suffering human beings with real lives. I just hope that someday you will feel safe enough to come forward with the specific stuff that's bothering you and share it with the group when you need to. I'm sure you will find that the outpouring of compassion and understanding will be the sweetest balm in the world.
GOSH! Ty for saving me from thinking and typing the exact same thing. I think I will wait for you to post from now on and then just say DITTO!
LOL
Newb: May you experience not the loss of a dear one, feel the gripping isolating pain, and find no place to go in search of comfort because you have put the sign up that says" if it's not hep c related, it is not allowed"
posting a question does not guarantee that ANY one here will know the answer and post it. Someone posts a question, gets 0 to 4 comments and the reamaining 26 go unused. Is that not a waste, because the question was hep c related? WHO decides what is wasteful in the forum? TG not you or I.
I am a person with hep c as was derail, but I AM NOT hep c and IT is not me. I have children, siblings, parents, Friends, pets, a home, etc., it's what makes ME more than a hep c infected individual. The forum support should cover the scope of my life as a whole, not the fragment the hep c comprises.
May you find the meaning of compassion before you are in its need.
LOL
Newb: May you experience not the loss of a dear one, feel the gripping isolating pain, and find no place to go in search of comfort because you have put the sign up that says" if it's not hep c related, it is not allowed"
posting a question does not guarantee that ANY one here will know the answer and post it. Someone posts a question, gets 0 to 4 comments and the reamaining 26 go unused. Is that not a waste, because the question was hep c related? WHO decides what is wasteful in the forum? TG not you or I.
I am a person with hep c as was derail, but I AM NOT hep c and IT is not me. I have children, siblings, parents, Friends, pets, a home, etc., it's what makes ME more than a hep c infected individual. The forum support should cover the scope of my life as a whole, not the fragment the hep c comprises.
May you find the meaning of compassion before you are in its need.
Thanks for coming by. Thank you for letting each of us be here for you. I know that this is where I come when I am distressed and just need to be with people for support. Please, if there is anything that I can do, let me know. ***@****. My email is available to anybody at any time for any reason.
Always,
Jamie
Newb - I have many things that I want to say to you, but will not. I just experienced the 2nd anniversary of my brother's passing on the 16th of August. It hurt like hell. It hurt as much as the day he died. If you cannot show support for OUR friend in need, then please, refrain from posting to him.
Always,
Jamie
Newb - I have many things that I want to say to you, but will not. I just experienced the 2nd anniversary of my brother's passing on the 16th of August. It hurt like hell. It hurt as much as the day he died. If you cannot show support for OUR friend in need, then please, refrain from posting to him.
Sorry to hear about your recent loss. I don't post often, but I for one, can use a little humor and inspiration in my life.
Sorry to hear about your recent loss. I don't post often, but I for one, can use a little humor and inspiration in my life.
Wow, your posting to Daryl blew me away!!! Your words were SOOOO incredibly insensitive, I can't even imagine what you were thinking, or were you?? Unfortunately, in life, we all must bear the lose of a loved one, I truly hope that when you do, somebody with some compassion with reach out to you.
Couch
Couch
Let's everyone calm down. I remember when I first came to this forum and got "shot at" by some veterans for some comments I made during a bad Riba day. All it did was start a flurry of negative posts until the thread was full and I was offended and left this sight for the treatment I got from 1 incorrect use of a term. Let Newb vent, if it's not your taste, then ignore don't attack. When it happened to me I left this forum for almost 2 months, times when I really needed support but was afraid to post. I sympathize with Daryl, but some of this could be handled thru direct e-mail and was posted yesterday anyway. Leave this forum for the use it was intended for. Sorry but that is how I feel about verbal attacks. Newb, live and learn because your posts above don't serve the purpose of this forum either. We are here for support, information and especially sympathetic interaction with each other. Good luck ~Neal~
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Well, I guess you all get the web site you deserve. If you want to keep telling jokes, offering meaningless platitudes and hugz, and air kissing each other, then so be it. But I feel for the person who comes to Med Help desperately seeking information and advice and just finds the meaningless blabber that goes on here.
Just so you know, I didn't know about the derail's personal tragedy. My condolences to him.
Just so you know, I didn't know about the derail's personal tragedy. My condolences to him.
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