3 months since exposure, no lesions, constant prodrome symptoms, is this herpes?

[scaredbutstrong]

Hello-
3 months ago to the day I was with a new partner. 4 days later tingling sensations started and for the next 3 months, daily ive been having tingling, burning and pinching sensations in my genital area/inner thigh. There have been no lesions or redness. I probably check myself at least 5 times a day. All of these sensations im feeling sound like what people describe as prodrome, but also I read that prodrome doesnt last this long.
Finally went to the OBGYN Monday who has tested me for all STD's..I wont get results for another couple of weeks but her first reaction is that this is not herpes but more Vulvodynia as she feels I would have had lesions by now. But Ive read there are many people infected who dont have lesions. Also I find it odd that all of a sudden I start having all these tingling/burning/pinching sensations after sex with a new partner. ( did not see any physical signs on him. Looking back his lips were chapped the next day and did he did perform oral, but it didnt look anything like a cold sore)
Fast forward 5 weeks, still with same person and now my lips start to feel tingly and i feel tingles in my cheek. a red spot developed right at my lip line and i paniced and purchased Abreva and put it on and nothing ever happened. I dont know if the red spot would have developed into something but I sure didnt want to give it a chance to find out. About a week later i feel the same tingly nerve pain in my cheek up towards my eye while at work. Now my eye is having occasional discharge, albiet a very small amount, and occasional bouts of burning on the skin around the eyes..but to look at the skin around my eye it looks normal. At one point a small red patch developed in the outside corner of my eye where it was burning but went away in a day..also the membrane ( or whatever you call it) which is in the inside corner of this same eye is visibly swollen compared to the other eye, but no discomfort, sensitivity to light or pain in my eye itself, just the burning feeling in the skin on the side of the eye and the discharge.
With all of this going on, I do fear I have contracted genital and now oral herpes that has also spread to my eye.
I do not know the other persons history.
I would love to think all of this is simply Vulvodynia and the lip and eye things are just other irritations/stress as I am certainly stressed over whats been going on. For the past 3 months ive been convinced I have herpes, been under extreme stress, lost a lot of weight and have had a lot of anxiety. I know the body can do a lot of things to itself but at the times I felt these lip/eye things I wasnt thinking about herpes or anxious.
Also the prodrome feelings are almost constant for 3 months. I get relief maybe 2 hours a day, if that, and when i lie down in bed. I think in the past 3 months I have had 4 days where I didnt feel much...the emotional toll has been awful.....
sorry so long, but my question is, is this herpes?  I know ill have the results in about 2 weeks, but im trying to figure this all out. If it was just isolated to my genitals I could see vulvodynida, but these lip tingles/red spots ( no history of ever) and eye burning/discharge makes me think its all related.

Thanks

[cal86]

Thanks for the support Rainy, I guess none of us are perfect in our decision making so we can't beat ourselves up too much. I can relate to your story about poor medical services, in my case they have inspected me visually and said because I don't have obvious classic lesions by now I don't have it. Although I have had small blister/pimples, i had to insist on blood testing. They don't take into account all the other crazy fatigue and nerve symptoms. You're lucky if you don't have these, I've read that herpes can cause long term chronic fatigue which I've been battling the last couple of months, and I'm worried I'll have it for life. Previously I was fit and active with a wide social network, now I can hardly move and have to sleep all the time. I'm worried I won't be able to work if it doesn't get better. I'm negative for all other std's. in two weeks time it will be twelve since the exposure, I'll have a further blood test and let you know.

[Rainy12]

Hi, do not feel bad, it is more anxiety and depression. I hate myself for putting myself in this situation. I just find it strange that results before we're negative. I was never given numbers but it stated less then 91 was negative, now at 16 weeks at 1.08 equivocal. Just to coincidental . You might want to wait longer then 2 weeks, results might still be accurate. I had a doctor visit yesterday and very disappointed in her knowledge of herpes. I gave her the details and she said cannot get it unless person has sores or visible outbreak which goes against everything you read. She also said shedding is more contagious from woman to man then man to woman. I do not feel confident in her knowledge of herpes at all. When I told her about the tests she thought it strange and told me to test again in a month. Another month of torture! I think you should wait until 12 weeks. I waited for 16 weeks and last at 9 was negative. Try to be strong, eat healthy to help you feel better. Keep us posted

[cal86]

I feel the same as you Rainy scared and ashamed, but if the worst happens then it's far from the end of the world, and you may still be negative, your numbers are still very low. Have been unwell with this? I've been feeling weak and extremely tired every day since the encounter

[Rainy12]

I got my test results today. First 3 tests negative at 2,6,9 weeks. Today at 16 weeks came in at 1.08, equivocal. I feel pretty darn sure I have it. The more I read herpes can cause on going irritation similar to vaginitis . Going to doctor tomorrow. One stupid judgement call and now this for the rest of my life...

[cal86]

I was tested at 8 weeks and was negative IgG HSV 1 .380 and HSV 2 .180. But I know it doesn't mean much because it's only conclusive after three or four months. I still have constant burning sensations in my penis, thigh, buttocks, lips, arm, tingling hand, hot calf, buzzing feeling in legs at night. But no obvious lesions but a few itchy spots on buttocks and redness on knob. Also mega fatigue and lost appetite and weight. Going for another test in two weeks, feeling pretty miserable at the moment

[whiteshadowcgb]

Have you been test yet?