i would tell them. My ex bf told me. I didn't stay with him because i as of now i am negative for anything genital, and the entire thing overwhelms me. We decided to take space so i could figure out if i caught anything from him and give me time to cope with the fact he has it.
Had he not told me and i ever caught it regardless of me having herpes or not i would of walked out the door, because he lied to me . regardless of having herpes you can find someone else to love. I think if he stays he loves you and thats what you want. You want to be honest to be fair and whatever they choose realy lets you know where you stand with that person
he may already have it orally, since a lot of people do. the best thing to do is to tell him, then you can stop worrying about it all.
if you've known since january that you've had it, then it's way past the "right" time to talk about this. it doesn't get any easier the longer you put it off.
you can't determine your partner's risk until they've been tested to know their own status.
Of course I would. Im just contemplating when would be the right time to tell. Ive just read so many posts that say yes you should tell and no. i just dont want him to freak out when I tell him hey I have the cold sore virus and its on my genitals :(
How infectious am I to my partner? I am not on medication or anything. I workout and eat right to keep my immune system up but im not sure if this is enough.
if the shoe was on the other foot, wouldn't you respect your partner more for talking about this with you than if they kept it a secret?
grace
sorry my post is so long I just wanted to get all of my concerns out there :(