Hi,
I've been experiencing some vaginal symptoms which, after exhaustive internet research, I believe must be genital herpes. About 6 days ago I started to feel like I had cut myself with a razor, although there were no cuts there. There were just some small, red, slightly sore bumps. It just looked like a rash. There's a small cluster of them on the outside of my labia, and one set a little bit apart from the others a bit further towards my vaginal entrance. I'd say they are all underneath the skin surface, although I just checked again tonight and a few look like they are getting a bit pimply. Still under the surface though. So far no blisters or fluid of any kind. However, I've been using Lavender & Melaleuca essential oil since I first noticed the irritation, as I didn't think for one second it would be herpes and these are what I use for any kind of skin condition I have, so this may have arrested their growth. I've also been experiencing some tingling sensations down there (comparable to shingles, which I had around my groin when I was 13) and a little itchiness, though not much. No aches, pains, fever or anything. But I don't see what else they can be. I've had a yeast infection for 2 years now & have just started taking medium term fluconazole does for it, I wonder if this has lowered my immune system enough to allow the virus to take hold?
If it is herpes, then I reckon I must have caught it years ago because the man I've been sleeping with, my ex, on & off for 2 years (& solidly for one of those years when we were a couple) hasn't slept with anyone else in that time and also got STI tested when we first got together (and I had been tested a few months before) Although, he could have been carrying it from before then and just not shown symptoms. I slept with 2 other people last year, both with condoms, but they gave me oral sex. I'm a bit confused - can you catch it from someone through them giving you oral? I suppose you can. And if they have oral herpes, can that become genital herpes for you? Also, what seems weird is that this came on 2 days after I slept with my ex. If he'd contracted it some time before we got together 2 years ago & passed it to me, wouldn't I have had an outbreak sooner? I mean, we use condoms 99% of the time, actually every time, but every so often there's been a moment where he's inside me without one. We thought we were clean - I knew I hadn't slept with anyone else unprotected, and he hadn't slept with anyone else at all. I know it's possible, but is it common to carry it for a number of years without an outbreak
Anyway, from what I can gather it's almost impossible to tell where you got it from. But, I am worried out of my mind and can't believe it's happening. I am going to attempt to go to a clinic Monday to get tested, but I'm not sure if the bumps will test positive because I've been using the essential oils which are antiviral, antibacterial etc, and the bumps will be a week old by then. Do you think it'd be worth me getting a PCR blood test a this stage, seeing as it doesn't seem like I was recently infected?
Any help you can offer would be so appreciated. I'm scared & upset - I've dealt with STI's in the past, and yet have spent 98% of my sexual life being ultra-careful, and I thought I'd paid my dues in that department. At this stage of my life (I'm in my mid 30's) the thought of having a lifelong disease and not being able to meet a partner or have children (don't understand how you can get pregnant if you can't have sex without a condom?) is just a bit too much to deal with. Any advice anyone can give me would be so very much appreciated.
Thanks in advance