tensed and anxious

[anxioustossa]

I got involved in sexual relationship with a married hetrosexual couple in India.
The wife in the couple seemed very very perticular about hygine. I performed vaginal sex two times, connilingus 3 times and she performed fellatio twice.
The timings for all the above sexual activities are as below.

vaginal intercourse (With condom) : 3/4 minutes each (twice)
Connilingus (8 to 10 mnts ) (thrice in two days) (No protection)
Fellatio: (2 /3 minutes each : intermittant) for two times (No Protection)

The couple has been married for 6/7 years and before marriage  wify had BF's and Hubby had GF. Dont know how many.

Couldnt see any symptoms of Oral or vaginal Herpes  in female. Since I am hetrosexual and the hubby in couple is hetro sexual we didnt touvh each other.

I washed my penis throughly immidiately after she gave me fellatio. The couple is so pertiular about hygine, that they always carrry HIV kit with them and are open to test on themselves and with their partners (male). They had been in this lifestyle for last 3 years and had met 2 men (excluding me) with whom wife had sexual relationship. I am into 48th hour after this sexual activity and still have no symptoms of Herpes.

I am married and me and my wife are in a monogamous relationship all our life till this incident happened.

I have few questions:

1. What are my chances of getting HSV 1 or HSV 2 infection.
2. After how many days the symptoms really occure

Appreciate your feedback

[gracefromHHP]

it's a 4% risk on average over the course of an entire year, not per sex act.  Condoms reduce transmission of genital herpes by about 30-40%.  

we don't have stats like that for hsv1 transmission from the oral area to the genital area.

do you know your hsv status in general? Can you recall ever having cold sores or have you been tested before to know if you have hsv1 already which would be your biggest risk from receiving oral sex?

grace

[anxioustossa]

Hi Grace

DO you know how anxious I am right now.
If i get Herpes my family life will be ruined. Thanks for your feedback it was reassuring that I may not have herpes. Do you know any websites which have stattistics on spread of herpes

I somewhere read that if a woman has herpes and if man does unprotected vaginal sex with her there is 2% chance that man will get infected with Herpes. Do you think cunnilingus and fellatio exposure are lower than this.

If i am infected do you think by this time almost 50 hrs from incidnnt I must show up some symptoms

regards and Many Thanks
mandy

[gracefromHHP]

it's still low risk. you've had no symptoms. it's not even worth testing unless you just need the peace of mind.

grace

[anxioustossa]

Hi Grace,

The vaginal intercourse was protected. but cunnilingus and fellatio was unprotected.

what risk i have to get infected from unprotected fellotio and cunnilingus

please answer

[gracefromHHP]

washing up after sex only makes you smell better. it won't decrease your std risk.

the only way to know your status is to get tested.  this was protected sex so odds are you didn't pick up anything but since herpes is on your mind, get tested so you know your status.

grace