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Giving hsv to my kids?
I think I have hsv I haven’t been to the doctor yet, but I have all symptoms. I’m just paranoid as crap to give it to my babies. My daughter was just sitting in my lap between my legs and now I’m scared I’ll pass it to her. I’ve been paranoid about sharing my drink and chapstick with her and my heart is broken because I feel like I can’t even kiss my baby anymore.
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Do you think you have it from the encounter you talked about a year ago? Have you had any other symptoms?
Let's say you do have it. Let's start with transmission.
You are only infectious from the site of your infection. If you have oral herpes - cold sores - you are only contagious from your mouth. If you have genital herpes, you are only infectious from your genitals.
This means that if you only have genital herpes, you can kiss your kids with no worries. If you have oral herpes, you can kiss your kids on the cheeks with no worries. The skin on cheeks is too thick for the virus to penetrate.
It's thought that sharing drinks will not transmit herpes, but because chapsticks stay moist, that might.
With colds, flus, strep, covid, etc., it's a good idea to teach your kids that sharing drinks and chapsticks and such isn't a good idea anyway, and that can start with you modeling that.
If you have genital herpes, you are only contagious if your unclothed genitals come into contact with someone else's unclothed genitals with friction. This means that if your kids get genital herpes from your genital herpes, you've had inappropriate sexual contact with them.
Herpes, and other STIs, do not go through clothing. If your kids are sitting on your lap, you can not give them herpes.
Now, why haven't you been to the doctor? Almost exactly a year ago, you had irritation, and no risk for herpes. If that's your only concern, and you're still having symptoms, you really need to see a doctor to find out why you are having symptoms.
If you're in the US, and lack of insurance is a concern, go to a local Planned Parenthood, your local health department, an STD clinic. Just please go see a doctor.
Let's say you do have it. Let's start with transmission.
You are only infectious from the site of your infection. If you have oral herpes - cold sores - you are only contagious from your mouth. If you have genital herpes, you are only infectious from your genitals.
This means that if you only have genital herpes, you can kiss your kids with no worries. If you have oral herpes, you can kiss your kids on the cheeks with no worries. The skin on cheeks is too thick for the virus to penetrate.
It's thought that sharing drinks will not transmit herpes, but because chapsticks stay moist, that might.
With colds, flus, strep, covid, etc., it's a good idea to teach your kids that sharing drinks and chapsticks and such isn't a good idea anyway, and that can start with you modeling that.
If you have genital herpes, you are only contagious if your unclothed genitals come into contact with someone else's unclothed genitals with friction. This means that if your kids get genital herpes from your genital herpes, you've had inappropriate sexual contact with them.
Herpes, and other STIs, do not go through clothing. If your kids are sitting on your lap, you can not give them herpes.
Now, why haven't you been to the doctor? Almost exactly a year ago, you had irritation, and no risk for herpes. If that's your only concern, and you're still having symptoms, you really need to see a doctor to find out why you are having symptoms.
If you're in the US, and lack of insurance is a concern, go to a local Planned Parenthood, your local health department, an STD clinic. Just please go see a doctor.
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I did go to the doctor for the incident a year ago and was tested regularly and everything was negative then. I have a new partner now who didn’t know he had it and has given it to me. It’s purely coincidence. I plan on seeing a doctor for this also.
So he knows he has it? You know for sure you have it? What kind of symptoms are you having?
In any case, the info is all the same. Your kids can't get it from you if you have it genitally.
If you're having a lot of symptoms, you can get meds for it, which will help.
In any case, the info is all the same. Your kids can't get it from you if you have it genitally.
If you're having a lot of symptoms, you can get meds for it, which will help.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
