odds are that neither of them have ever been tested for herpes before to know who has what. once they both know who has what, they'll have a little better idea of if this might be herpes or not.
meanwhile, the free herpes handbook at www.westoverheights.com is a terrific resource for them both. pass the link on to them to read through. also the patient counseling video on the same site is also very helpful.
this has all JUST HAPPENED. he saw his doctor today who said yep, it's herpes, let's do blood work to be sure....but he is completely healed up right now! it's been two weeks since the first outbreak and he is completely healed up. they did have oral sex when both had canker sores (not cold sorse on the lips) on their tongue and inner cheek and the doctor said - yep. herpes. she is making an appointment with her OB/GYN now though they have not been with anyone else and she was just recently checked for HPV with a cervical scraping and all was totally clear then.
has your daughter been tested yet to know her own herpes status? if not, she'll need a type specific herpes igg blood test to see what her status is.
was she also seen and had proper testing for yeast and bacterial infections vaginally too when she had symptoms?
grace