So. Here is my herpes story. I could really use some feedback. In July of this year, I started dating my boyfriend. I became concerned that I had contracted oral herpes previously (i.e. had several occurences of small blisters on my lips) and that I would pass it on to him through unprotected oral sex. During this time, I also started having a burning pain (like a chemical burn, and a sort of numbness) on the left side of my vagina that developed several hours, sometimes a day, after sex. Each time it happened, I got examined (once at Planned Parenthood, two or three times at my college health center, and the doctors saw no signs of herpes, and I was diagnosed with a yeast infection (also was suggested that I had a latex allergy, we switched condoms, symptoms much lessened, I think we have just been having too-rough sex, since even after switching condoms the pain was still a little present). I also was tested in the middle of July for the full range of other STDS--trich, HIV, gonorheea, syph, chlamydia--all negative!
On September 4th, we had unprotected sex for the first time, although we had been having unprotected oral sex--I would go down on him. After this I really started freaking out that I had given him, and by extension, myself, HSV I on our genitals. I was still experiencing the burning on my labia, and I also had some very small bumps on my lip (mouth) that went away--I had my school nurse look at them each time, she said she could not disprove that they were herpes, but they weren't the classical ulcers. I also experienced a numbness and tingling in my left buttock. I also went to the doctor for this, she finally recommended that I get the blood test for herpes I and II, both IgM and IgG. On September 23, I was tested for both HSV I and II, the IgG and the IgM. By September 30th, the tests came back, both negative, and the IgG negative for both types.
My questions: My boyfriend has never had unprotected sex before me, and has not been with many people ( I would say no more than 5-6, if you count unprotected oral) I think he should get tested, but at the same time, we have been together for 4 months, and I just had negative test results. My next question: Should I trust these results? I have the tingling/numbness in my left buttock again, but I talked to the doctor who ordered the tests today and she said that if I had had an outbreak between July and September one or both of the tests would have been positive.
Should I be tested again in a few months (igG?) Especially considering that this past weekend (Oct 1-3) I stupidly had unprotected p-in-v sex with the boyfriend again, and we continue to have unprotected oral sex (although only me going down on him, since i have been so anxious about herpes). I am not comfortable with being unprotected vaginally again until he is tested--is this unreasonable? Should I also abstain from giving him oral sex until he agrees to be tested and comes back negative? To be clear, he has never had an outbreak, or unprotected sex, except with me, and I have had no symptoms besides the ones described, and negative test results, since being with him. What should I do? Also, and this is really important, how expensive are these tests? I had it billed to my parent's insurance, since they are very supportive and know I have been having so much anxiety about this. How much is it? I want to offer to pay for half since he is resisting getting tested due to lack of funds. Help please please please! ( I should also mention that my lips have been tingling almost constantly since July--I think it is the stress of thinking I have herpes all the time!)