Herpes?

[confusedjan10]

Hi
I was with my new boyfriend a couple of weeks ago. We decided not to get intimate before getting both of us tested for all STDs.  We did not have intercourse but he put his finger inside my anus. Before that he had put his hand in the mouth and I guess he transferred his saliva to my anal region. A couple of days after that the results of his test came. And he is positive for HSV1.

He doesn't remember any outbreak of herpes either in the mouth or genital area. How do I know if he has oral herpes or genital?

What is the probability that he transferred HSV1 virus to my anal region by the act I had described above. A few days after that I was traveling. I usually have problems of constipation. The traveling and beginning of my menstrual cycle made me constipated and I developed a cut near my anal region. When I would go to the bathroom, I would notice blood spots on the toilet paper. Then during my period, I had dull vaginal pain. 10 days after that I got  common cold and sore throat. Now I keep feeling that I am experiencing general dull uncomfort in my genital area. I think its really all in my brain. But I am really scared about having genital herpes (HSV1) virus. Can you tell me what should I do? For how long should I wait before getting tested for antibodies in my blood? Shoul I abstain from sex with my boyfriend. In case his virus is in the mouth area, I dont want to infect his genitals.

Please help
Thanks

[gracefromHHP]

this doesn't really sound like a herpes lesion.

grace

[confusedjan10]

Okay, now I notice a few (maybe three) scattered  bumps on my thigh. I have to admit it could be just because I had shaved. I also see an ingrown hair in one. But one of the bumps makes me doubtful. Although its too small and not painful. Do you think the doctor will take a culture test of a small bump?

If it is Herpes, for how long should it last? I am worried that it will go away by the time I get my appointment with the doctor.

Thanks in advance.

[confusedjan10]

Thank You all for the assurance!

[gracefromHHP]

typically when you contract hsv1 genitally, you get very obvious and very classic symptoms that you can't miss. You didn't have any of those. Honestly it's not worth even having any more testing for.

grace

[confusedjan10]

Thanks Grace.
I was going very crazy about this whole episode. And my nurse wasn't telling me if it really was a risk or not. She has asked me to wait for six weeks (after the incident) before I get my blood test done. The test before this incident was negative for both HSV1 and HSV 2.
Regards

[gracefromHHP]

the risk from saliva like that for herpes is very, very low. not really worth worrying about to be honest. You've not had any symptoms typical of herpes either since then.

constipation can cause all sorts of issues. taking a fiber supplement like benefiber is very helpful for keeping stool soft. mirlax is also very useful and you can buy it in single use packets that are easy to take with you on trips or to just mix in a bottle of juice or water around that time of the month when you know you will be backed up a bit.   You know you have patterns of constipation so you can easily keep them at bay better to keep yourself more comfortable :)

did you get your herpes test results back yet?

grace

[confusedjan10]

Also: at that time he did NOT  have an active outbreak of cold sores. But I have read that virus shed even without symptoms sometimes.

[confusedjan10]

Thank You Very very much for the reply. I feel better. I think  I was feeling very scared. I just want to confirm one thing. The act I described, my boyfriend using his saliva to lubricate my anal region- other websites on google say that is quick enough for the herpes virus to be transferred? What do you think?
Sorry to bother yo so much.

[confusedjan10]

Thank You Very very much for the reply. I feel better. I think  I was feeling very scared. I just want to confirm one thing. The act I described, my boyfriend using his saliva to lubricate my anal region- other websites on google say that is quick enough for the herpes virus to be transferred? What do you think?
Sorry to bother yo so much.

[Mistakeguy789]

Lets start with the first question.  You are at just about no risk from the act you describe for herpes.  Herpes doesn't live on the hands/outside of the body that long.  

You could have had a small cut due to anything or even have a hermorroid.  That will cause some blood to show when you are wiping in your anus.  Other things can cause the symptoms you describe.  Chances that this is again HSV extrmeley low.  Follow up with your doctor if you have any symptoms though and have him/her do a proper work up.  

Your boyfriend's HSV-1 infection is most likely in the oral region.  He along with about 50% of the rest of american have cold sores and typically we get that from our childhood years.  Again its nothing to worry about.  You should abstain from sex and kissing if/when he has an oral outbreak.  Their is a chance you may still get HSV-1 from him if he is shedding the virus from the location without any signs or symptoms.  But oral HSV isn't that big of a deal.

Here is some useful information:
http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm

You won't transmit HSV-1 to him gentially as his body has anitbodies to combat a new infection at a new site.  You don't have HSV so you can't give it to him anyway.

I would ask though just to make sure the proper testing was done.  Do you know what test was done to check for herpes?  Your lab results should state on there.  You want an IgG blood test not an IgM if he had an IgM test done you should have a new test done with a type specific test.