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Herpes testing/contraction
Doctor,
I'm 35 and married. I made the very stupid mistake of frequenting a strip club in Las Vegas about a monh ago. During the visit, I was taken to the back room with a dancer. The dancer provided me with a little bit of an extra and pulled out my penis. She turned her body forward and allowed my penis to slide between her buttocks to completion. She had her bottom panties on and I may not have touched her skin to skin contact the entire time, but enough to where I've felt scared ever since. I did not penetrate any part of her body. I did not visibly see any sores or anything on her body. Exactly 3 weeks to the day later, I went in for a 10-panel. I hadn't been tested for anything in a very long time. Since before I met my wife. So after nervously waiting for the results, all tests came back negative with the exception of hsv-1 antibodies. My stomach dropped, but the woman who gave my results said this is a verson of HSV in which most people test positive for. I have never had a cold sore and not sure where I would have picked it up. I am very happy that nothing came back possitive in any other aspect. I have not had any symptoms of herpes or any legions appear of any kind in my life or within the last few weeks since the incident. But now I'm reading that 3 weeks may have been too early to detect hsv-2 signs. This fact keeps me scarred that something may indeed still be looking over my head. I just want this whole bad experience to be over and for my regret and guilt drive me to never walk this road again. All of this while my wife and I just started trying to conceive.
Questions:
1.) how accurate is my hsv-2 negative at this 3 week mark? When should I be tested again?
2.). I haven't shown any symptoms, am I being paranoid?
3.). Am I contagious for hsv-2 if I do have it and show no signs? (Flu, legions, ect)
4.). Could I be putting our conception attempts in jeaopardy or my wife's health to conceiving?
I'm 35 and married. I made the very stupid mistake of frequenting a strip club in Las Vegas about a monh ago. During the visit, I was taken to the back room with a dancer. The dancer provided me with a little bit of an extra and pulled out my penis. She turned her body forward and allowed my penis to slide between her buttocks to completion. She had her bottom panties on and I may not have touched her skin to skin contact the entire time, but enough to where I've felt scared ever since. I did not penetrate any part of her body. I did not visibly see any sores or anything on her body. Exactly 3 weeks to the day later, I went in for a 10-panel. I hadn't been tested for anything in a very long time. Since before I met my wife. So after nervously waiting for the results, all tests came back negative with the exception of hsv-1 antibodies. My stomach dropped, but the woman who gave my results said this is a verson of HSV in which most people test positive for. I have never had a cold sore and not sure where I would have picked it up. I am very happy that nothing came back possitive in any other aspect. I have not had any symptoms of herpes or any legions appear of any kind in my life or within the last few weeks since the incident. But now I'm reading that 3 weeks may have been too early to detect hsv-2 signs. This fact keeps me scarred that something may indeed still be looking over my head. I just want this whole bad experience to be over and for my regret and guilt drive me to never walk this road again. All of this while my wife and I just started trying to conceive.
Questions:
1.) how accurate is my hsv-2 negative at this 3 week mark? When should I be tested again?
2.). I haven't shown any symptoms, am I being paranoid?
3.). Am I contagious for hsv-2 if I do have it and show no signs? (Flu, legions, ect)
4.). Could I be putting our conception attempts in jeaopardy or my wife's health to conceiving?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I don't think it does have a different risk.
Terri
Terri
Hi Terri,
The contact was against her buttocks, however sliding between her buttocks and not merely the outside. Again, this is with a g-string on. But my penis was being massaged as she rubbed my penis between cheeks. I fear this may have a different risk.
The contact was against her buttocks, however sliding between her buttocks and not merely the outside. Again, this is with a g-string on. But my penis was being massaged as she rubbed my penis between cheeks. I fear this may have a different risk.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
So let me make sure I have this correct: the only contact between your penis and this person was your penis against her buttocks? That is not a risk for herpes unless she specifically had a herpes lesion on her buttocks. People do not shed virus without symptoms from their buttocks - the skin is too thick there for shedding. So if your only contact was penis shaft to buttocks without a lesion, there is no risk of herpes here.
If you were to have a lesion, yes, it would be on the penis, not the thigh at this point.
April 7th would only be a month, not long enough for accuracy, but I really don't think you have risk here if your account of the activity and my summary is correct.
Terri
If you were to have a lesion, yes, it would be on the penis, not the thigh at this point.
April 7th would only be a month, not long enough for accuracy, but I really don't think you have risk here if your account of the activity and my summary is correct.
Terri
Also, the test I took was a standard igg test. The incident happened on March 6th. If I take a Western Blot on April 7th, will that be enough time to gauge accuracy? I need to know. My life and marriage will be over if this comes back positive.
Thank you for the comment. Again, I have shown no other symptoms of the virus. If I were to estimate, I may have had skin to skin contact for 5 minutes, no genital to genital contact. And again this would be my penis shaft against the dancers buttocks in a G-Sting. No other part of my genitals came in contact wth her.
Is it possible to have all primary contact done with my penile shaft yet obtain any outbreak elsewhere? I've been self evaluating my entire pelvic region looking at every little mark that could possibly resemble anything. It's making me crazy. Nothin itches, not readness. I was also a shaver until recently and I keep looking at old shaving marks as if they were going to form as a herpe.
If I were to contract an outbreak, because the skin to skin contact was with my shaft, it's that the likelyhood where I would obtain a first breakout? I keep examining my thighs and taint area making myself believe I can see something forming.
They say the initial outbreak is always the worst, am I just searching for piece of mind when, if I am infected, it'll show up in spades?
If I see something I think is a herpe or tiny tiny pimple. How long before it should rupture over into a sore if it is a herpe? I'm looking at marks on a daily basis for change.
Is it possible to have all primary contact done with my penile shaft yet obtain any outbreak elsewhere? I've been self evaluating my entire pelvic region looking at every little mark that could possibly resemble anything. It's making me crazy. Nothin itches, not readness. I was also a shaver until recently and I keep looking at old shaving marks as if they were going to form as a herpe.
If I were to contract an outbreak, because the skin to skin contact was with my shaft, it's that the likelyhood where I would obtain a first breakout? I keep examining my thighs and taint area making myself believe I can see something forming.
They say the initial outbreak is always the worst, am I just searching for piece of mind when, if I am infected, it'll show up in spades?
If I see something I think is a herpe or tiny tiny pimple. How long before it should rupture over into a sore if it is a herpe? I'm looking at marks on a daily basis for change.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
When deciding how accurate a test result is, I consider many things: timing is one of them, of course. By three weeks from an encounter, 50% of those who are newly infected with HSV 2 will show antibody. But I also consider the encounter. The encounter that describe sounds very low risk to me. You mention some skin to skin contact so it isn't zero, but I'm not clear how much of that contact there was so I can't be too certain. If you want to test again, it should be done about 4 months after the contact.
You could be infectious without any symptoms, yes, but again, I think it is so unlikely that you are infected.
As to questions about your attempts at conception: it goes back to your low risk for infection. We know you weren't infected before this because your antibody test is negative, so the only question is did you get infected at this encounter. And my answer to that is very likely not.
Terri
You could be infectious without any symptoms, yes, but again, I think it is so unlikely that you are infected.
As to questions about your attempts at conception: it goes back to your low risk for infection. We know you weren't infected before this because your antibody test is negative, so the only question is did you get infected at this encounter. And my answer to that is very likely not.
Terri
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