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I would like to know how to prevent transmitting genital herpes to my boyfriend who doesn't have this. Is there anything else I can use other than a condum to protect him?? Is there something I can put on my genital area so we can engage in oral sex??
On the oral sex thing, unless you are having an outbreak, it is safe for him to perform oral sex on you. I am not a huge fan of Saran wrap or dental dams during oral, but I've never had a man be uncomfortable going down on me, either. (Thank god, because if they don't do oral, they can't be my boyfriend!) :) Suppressive therapy again will help protect him in this regard, even though oral sex in general is a low-risk activity for STDs.
Can you go on suppressive therapy? You can take Valtrex or ayclovir daily, which has been shown in clinical studies to decrease shedding. I have type 2 myself, and I would not even consider having sex with a negative person without using suppressive therapy. If you use condoms and go on medication, together these two things will probably keep him negative for the duration of your relationship. The risk is something like less than 1% per year he could contract it. Condoms are fairly good protection alone, but the heavy lifting of protection is done by the medication. I've had unprotected sex while using medication, and my negative partner did not contract it.
Herpes isn't that easy to transmit even if all you do is avoid sex during outbreaks. Condom doesn't have a "u" in it.
Herpes isn't that easy to transmit even if all you do is avoid sex during outbreaks. Condom doesn't have a "u" in it.
Valtrex, Condoms and don't do it with an outbreak.. That's all you can do. There will always be a risk whether it be slight or a lot and you just have to minimize them with the abve.
Thanks for all the advise, I do know I have tested positive for 1 & 2, but never have a problem with type 1. I thought for sure having oral sex at any time would be dangerous, mabe not if the meds are supressing the shedding. I guess I am just nervious about him getting this, thats the last thing I would ever want to do to anyone..
I forgot to add that you should know what type of herpes you both have. If you have type 2, the above information about suppression applies to you. If you both have type 1, it's a somewhat different situation. Has the boyfriend been checked?
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