How can my bf have herpes after two years with negative blood tests swab positive

[kaitlin2232]

So i'm a little confused here and i am trying to see if there have been some mistakes made. Obviously like most people i have done all the reading on this, but i am still confused. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and about a month ago he was having problems down there. Every doctor thought it was an infection or something of that short and never imagined it would be an std. Why would they i have never tested positive for herpes and neither had he. I got tested last month after a swab test came back positive for herpes. However, the last time he had a sexual relationship with another woman was 2 years ago. I believe him when he says he did not cheat because we assumed i was an asymptomatic carrier. Before we dated i had had some relations and was tested before i engaged in sex with those men. However, ive been tested now by  a blood test and told i am negative. We do not know what type he has and i am going back to retest at least twice. What confuses me is that it was not even in his blood and i thus far do not have it. So i feel like if i do test positive it came from him? Is there any chance this is a mistake. He had his exam done at the health center they do a million of these a day. I am hoping that a future blood test shows it or if he ever gets those symptoms again a swab would say negative. Is there any chance this is a mistake how on earth could we have sex for a year ad i did not get it? we also never used condoms until receantly when i got off my birth control because i was having issues on it. If i don't have it so far, how does he?
How would i go about figuring this out??

[Well_Adjusted]

Hi Kaitlin,

Symptoms will differ from person to person. My thoughts on this are: You have definitely made the right decision not to sleep with your partner until you have accurate medical proof of your partners type of herpes (visit several doctors and don't always use the same GP), you should also be entirely educated about how your partners condition will impact on your life! The truth is that no one, absolutely no one wants herpes or any other std for that fact. It can be a debilitating condition for those who carry the condition in that it can be very painful; ugly; embarrassing; it affects your immunity: weakening it, you may even find it difficult to find a life long partner. Actually, you probably would. If i were you i would seriously reconsider staying with your partner. You are too young to live with herpes and will easily find a new lover who you can trust. Maybe you and your partner should spend a little time apart, this will allow him to better understand the extent of his condition, and how much it frightens you, what it means to you etc and should mean to him. Give him time to think seriously about his condition, allow him space. He should then have time to obtain the results of his type of herpes (and find out whether he has had the condition for long) providing you with essential answers about this so called monogamy. It would also be good for you both to spend time apart from each other so that you can better measure the depth of your relationship. Just make sure that if you decide to stay with him you take a copy of the test results to your GP for a detailed explanation. It will help you to write all of your questions down on paper and have your GP answer them. Take a pen with you! Best of luck.

[lajellybean]

Some people get breakouts once every couple years even over 10 years lol. Hope I m that lucky since I hear some people breakout like once a month. Been a year so far....wish you luck! Stay strong hunny.

[lajellybean]

i refuse to take suppressive meds during my pregnacy. I had 3 weeks to clear my outbreak or I would have a c section and my dr prescribed me a dosage of 4 pills a day of the hsv pill. I didn't take it, I chose to take 4 pills of 1000 mg of vitamin c since I read that helped and also a pill of lysene. I also used aloe vera gel and tea tree oil. Also alcohol and my two bumps healed. I read that taking a pill vitamin c and lysene everyday is good to not have breakouts ever. I did that for 2 months after delivering my baby and stopped since I forgot a lot to take my vitamins. But hsv has to do with the immune system and I am pretty healthy. Only had that one breakout, my husband never had one. We still have unprotected sex and if I ever notice a bump I won't have sex until it goes away but that has yet to happen. Just eat healthy, take vitamins, and live your life. I didn't think I could handle the stress either.

[lajellybean]

Only a swab test is accurate. Blood usually comes back negative. I thought my life was over when I was 8 month pregnant and I went to the OB/GYN for 2 painful bumps and my swab test came back positive. I was certain it was from shaving but I was wrong and became very depressed. It was my first break out and my boyfriend had no signs of it and still doesn't. I was going to leave him and be alone for the rest of my life because I was uneducated about HSV. I haven't had any more bumps at all, been researching lot which helped me cope and accept that I have HSV and have to live with it.  My boyfriendd was very supportive and said he didn't care if I had it and he believes I don't have herpes( think he says that to make me feel better) and loves me the same. We still have unprotected sex and yes I am very paranoid still about ever getting a bump but still haven't and its been a year.  I still am the same person as before my first and I hope my last break out. Don't let HSV get in the way of you losing an opportunity to be with the person you are in love with.  Trust me I hated myself when I found out, I wanted to leave my boyfriend because of it, but I am glad he stuck by my side and married me because I would not be happier with anyone else.

[gracefromHHP]

daily suppressive therapy works at reducing shedding and transmission of hsv2. not as much use for it with hsv1 genitally. also if a partner has hsv1 already, no reason for any precautions other than avoiding sex during ob's if you have hsv1 genitally.

the free herpes handbook by terri warren has all the basics if you haven't read it yet.

[kaitlin2232]

Arnt the precations the same for either one? Avoid outbreaks and use valtrex and condoms?