I shudder to think how long you've been putting up with this behavior from him!!!! why put up with it? don't you deserve better treatment than this? You never knew you had genital herpes and really at this point you aren't even sure if you had it before him or if you got it from him. why let him continue to blame you for everything and anything that goes on? If he can't accept it and deal with it, time to move on unless you want to try to work it out together in therapy/counseling. His behavior is affecting your mental health - time to get help either for yourself or for you both. If he won't go , go for yourself so you don't carry around these feelings needlessly for years and let it affect future relationships you have too. If you have children together, they deserve to live in a home where the parents are more emotionally healthy don't you agree?
herpes would not make him weak and tired. If he thinks he gets symptoms just being close to you, he certainly needs to seek out professional help from a therapist because that is all in his mind!
Ive done that, ive begged and pleaded, half the time I dont know any thing is going on. Ive done everything short of doing it myself. But every week its a twitch or something and if he gets close to me (far and few between) its a epidemic. I didnt think it could function where it comes every week or even evertime we kiss. I know its unpredictable, but he says hes soo tired and weak..i know hes not imagining the lip and genital stuff but could some of this be psychologiacally induced?
your partner needs to be tested to confirm his own status.
no, herpes won't show up on his hands and arms because he has it genitally. Anywhere in the genital area, including the buttocks very well could be herpes but odds are the other body parts are not herpes related.
why not tell your partner enough with the pity party and to stop being difficult and go and get properly tested and be seen when he has symptoms to find out what all is going on?
I'll gladly take a look at your herpes blood test results too if you want to post them here - e.g. hsv1 igg 4.3 and hsv2 igg 4.9 or whatever they are.
grace
I mean honestly, its bad enough that I now relive the incident that I worked so hard to put behind me on a daily basis but I havent had an outbreak and he hates me for that