I need some answers please

[Buddy1209]

Please can you help me I'm going outta my mind on December 26 I meet with a csw that I have meet before I had a  unprotected hand job with saliva from her....so I later Down an she sat on my legs an her vagina touched the base of my penis an didn't think nothing of it then she started a hand job with saliva for a couple of minutes then I gave her the condom she opened it up an licked the in side an the put the condom on with her mouth as that was happening I was playing you her vaginal area so before I was ready to ejaculate I pulled the condom of an jacked off on to her but I grab my penis with the hand I touched her vagina with....a couple days later I feel a stinging not bad but a little bit on the tip an around the left side of the rim of the penis it's been on an off for a couple day (1 week)  an now idk if I'm seeing thing but it looks like I see 2 black or blue little dots or clear i don't know an that's on the rim of the head of the penis an i don't know  what it is I'm so scared that I Got very  nauseous  cause I'm so scared an a couple days after this episode I had sex with my wife an now I'm very scared if I do have any thing I don't want to give it to her I'm so scared I don't wanna ruin her life if been 15 days since this happen please I'm begging can you please let me know what might be going on please I beg

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, youve been posting here the same issues for the past few years and are up to 72 posts and always get the same advise that since your married you need to test for her protection. I would highly suggest seeking conceling if you feel there is a problem here.

[feelingundone]

Tour odds from an exposure like this is incredibly low.

[Buddy1209]

But I just wanna know my hands came in contact with her vagina an I used that same hand to masterbate with but my hand was not wet or soaked with vaginal fluid can that transmit herpes an also I had protected oral sex like I said I pulled the condom off an masterbate With the same hand I was rubbing her vagina with so why's the risk an it's been 16 days past exposer

[feelingundone]

The oral is no risk. Either is the masterbation you describe. Std's are not transmitted in that manner. Every expert I've spoken two all agree on this.

[Buddy1209]

Ok thank you for your help I really appreciate it thank you so much

[Buddy1209]

I have one more question im sorry do you think I need testing for this or do you think my  anxiety Was taken over my thoughts

[Life360_Dave]

with herpes there dosesnot need to be a blister and its called shedding.

[Buddy1209]

Ok but like I said if I had her vaginal fluid on my had an touched my penis Is that a risk ??

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, the hand job on condom thing is zero risk for any std. But if her genital area made rubbing contact with your genital area it would be a risk for herpes and syphilis. Reading what you wrote i would not be concened at all about any std but since your married you should test for syphilis and herpes for her protection.

[Buddy1209]

Her vagina did not make contact with the tip of my penis at all only the base of it near the balls.....I was fingering her while I was getting protected oral and pulled the condom off and used the same hand I fingered her with to masterbate an finish my self off so can I contract herpes like that also she was not very wet at all I didn't see no blisters or cuts on he genital area I was looking to be sure