I possibly infected someone.

[HelpMe305]

I feel absolutely horrible and filled with terrible anxiety. I have had a male friend for the last week. Well i haven't had an outbreak in a couple months. I noticed when I shave down there, I usually get an out break. It's usually in the exact same spot. Ok well, the night before last, him and I went out and partied, I was under the influence of a drug that alters my mind. Well we ended up
Having unprotected sex. At this time, no out break. Well a day later, I notice an irritation around my anus. This sometimes happens from my thongs. Well I seem to have developed the irriatation. I'm not 100% sure it is an outbreak, but to be better safe than sorry I'm going to think if is. Now I understand transmission is most right before an outbreak and during. However what if the sex triggered the outbreak? I haven't had sex in a couple months. I know I need to tell him, however I am a coward. I am trying to find a way to tell him without him knowing I knew. I thought maybe going and getting tested and then telling him. I know that sounds horrible but he knows many people in my family that don't know I have herpes. I would hate for him to get mad knowing I knew. I'm anxiety filled.

[gracefromHHP]

if sex triggered the recurrence, it wouldn't be an issue.

at this point you don't even know if it's a recurrence though too.

since you had unprotected sex, you can cover your bases with testing at the proper times. you can test for chlamydia,gonorrhea and trich anytime after 1 week post encounter. syphilis after 6 weeks. herpes, hiv and hepatitis after 3 months.  

have you had your gardasil shots yet?

grace

[HelpMe305]

How though... I already had sex with him. He will hate me.

[mightaswellask88]

It doesn't matter how you tell him as long as you tell him. Whether he thinks you knew before or not, he'll find out what he needs to know.