Infection Risk from from stripper

[generalwest]

I'm a white male in my 30's. 18 days ago i had a drunken night where i both preformed brief oral sex and received oral sex to completion from a stripper. She did not have obvious sores that i know of or remember, she said she was clean of course. Day 3 post exposure i began to experience a cold burning sensation in my groin and thighs but no signs of leisions. I saw my primary that afternoon and he did not see any signs of anything but gave me a 7 day dose of Valtrex to help ease my mind and potentially blunt an infection he said. Day 4 i noticed a pimple like spot in my pubic area (i have had spots in that area before) i popped it and put acne cream on it and it has almost completely gone away. I got results back from a full panel STD test including Igg for HSV 1&2 and everything was negative. Symptoms continued and i went back to see my primary on day 6 and he ordered me an IGG/IGM test which i took on Day 9 (while still on Valtrex). Results came back negative IGG 1&2, Positive 1.15 IGM. Now i am freaking out. After those results he gave me another prescription for the valtrex and said to retest in 6 weeks, if negative then he would feel comfortable saying i didnt have anything. I am still experiencing the same symptoms of the cold burning with some spasaming in my right hamstring and thigh, tingling in lips and tongue, but still no sign of any lesions or blisters on day 18 (spot on pubic area is still there although very faint and dermetologist diagnosed it as foliculitis as well as other spots on my waistline and thighs, he has me on doxycycline now also). I am planning on retaking the IGG test on day 23 and wanted to know how accurate that will be. I know everything you read says to wait till 12 weeks but i cant wait that long, i am married and can not reject my wife for that long.
Questions:
1) Likelihood of contracting HSV from this encounter (i know i am at risk for both types)
2)Should IGM of 1.15 be totally disregarded even though IGG was negative previously
3)How accurate will IGG be at 23 days post exposure and will the Valtrex that i am still taking affect results
4)Dr. says as long as there are no signs of blisters or leisons then i am ok to be with my wife, even better if i am on the valtrex. Is that true? What are my risks of exposing her to anything?
5)Everything i read says i need to wait to 12 weeks to retest, is there anything available to take sooner and to feel comfortable with the result?

Somebody please help me, i am terrified and depressed over losing my family over this disgustingly stupid mistake!

[generalwest]

I am considering stopping the valtrex. I want to ensure accurate Igg testing. Taking test again at 23 days post exposure. Does the valtrex prevent initial outbreak?

[Life360_Dave]

Those that do contact it have symptoms like a blister within the first week not weeks later and Prodrome is a term used for those that all ready have herpes and can be used as a tool predicting a coming outbreak. Its not a term used so much for those recently acquiring it and valtrex will not  stop contracting the virus. Once its in the nerve is there forever under our current herpes treatments.

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, you giving her oral is extremely low risk activity as the mouth contains digestive enzimes that kill bacterias and viruses. Also hsv 2 genital does not prefer the oral area. If she has hsv1 genital and your lips made rubbing contact, she would also need to have some active sores to be at any real risk as shedding does not occur that often.
Also if she did not have any lip sores at the time your risk  of contacting hsv1 in your genital area would be close to zero from a one time affair.
Your symptoms in your groin and thigh area would not be herpes related as first time outbreaks would be at point of contact like your penis shaft area.

Same with the pimple, wrong area.
Disregard the IGM test only igG are accurate.