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Could it be herpes???
I have a question about 6 days ago we went to a strip club with my friends...we got some dancers to dance for us. ..we were drinking very heavily and I do not recall the nights events...but have some flashes of a girl dancing and unzipping my shorts....but do not recall the rest....I have Gone for std testing...vitamin am feeling a very light tingle on my lip and my groin...I have been a nervous wreck since this event as I have never cheated on my wife of 15 years....the Internet is horrible to look up symptoms but I have no visible bumps....I've had the tingling for 3 or four days...Ives this a symptom of herpes..how long before incandescent get a good test for herpes ..and when do the first symptoms usually occurs ...any help would be really appreciated
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Yes after 10-14 days you can start to feel more confident. The hiv tests are not definite at 9-11,days usually about 28 days. Hiv is not overly concerning as it's a real long shot she would have it and an ever longer shot you would contract it. It's harder to contract than most people realize.
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ahhh 14 days that's 8 more from now that sucks.....its been hard enough to get here ...wow this sucks I wil never put my self in this position again
I'm sorry I don't mean to sound so desperate but I am....I screwed up and now my whole life comes down to this .....that what makes this so hard.....I loose everything if this comes back wrong.....so every day is hard and scarry and full of stress....just trying to get help and information
I highly doubt you could have contracted hsv from this. It's not a super contagious infection. There is a reason these are called sexually transmitted. 3-10 days is the time frame that lesions would appear. I understand your stress but your risk is essentially zero. You can test at twelve weeks if you feel the need to.
Your symptoms are more than likely stress induced and certainly not hsv. Those symptoms do not happen for a primary outbreak.
Hope this helps a little
Your symptoms are more than likely stress induced and certainly not hsv. Those symptoms do not happen for a primary outbreak.
Hope this helps a little
thank you for your help I'm kind of a mess right now......I don't know if we had sex or if we didn't I'm pretty sure she gave me oral.... ...its been 6 days now and every day has been horrible....I stoped drinking at the same time so I don't know if some of the feelings I have are from that as well...but It horrible ....every day feels like 2 weeks...like I'm sitting around wating for something to come up .....so is there anything I should look out for .....thank you for your help.....
also when would you say ive made it clear...or when can I start breathing again .... thank you
I understand your anxiety. At this time you can do a urine test for bacterial std's. Again the chances of contracting anything from a single exposure is very low.
If you get discharge, burning urination or lesions then go get checked out.
If it were me I would test for chlamydia and gonnerhia now. I would test for syphilis and hiv at 6 weeks and hsv at 12 weeks. This is just to be safe.
I reread your first post and if you already tested for the bacterial std's after 3 or 4 days then I would just test for the rest at the proper times.
Again the odds are good you are fine but not knowing exactly what happened I would play it safe.
If you get discharge, burning urination or lesions then go get checked out.
If it were me I would test for chlamydia and gonnerhia now. I would test for syphilis and hiv at 6 weeks and hsv at 12 weeks. This is just to be safe.
I reread your first post and if you already tested for the bacterial std's after 3 or 4 days then I would just test for the rest at the proper times.
Again the odds are good you are fine but not knowing exactly what happened I would play it safe.
lol 12 weeks lol I can hardly make it a day...lol...I have read u can get a new rna Hiv test at 9-11 days....I have gone already for the std testing as I told my doctor and he sent me to get tested....is it safer to say if you don't get anything in the first 10 days then your on the safer side???? just trying to see on short term goal s to give me some light at the end of the tunnel....thank you your comments have helped calm me down a little bit
I was in your very same shoes my friend. I am fully aware of the panic within. Trust me when I say you are waiting for the big punishment to come down for your actions. It doesn't work that way. Keep busy and hopefully the time will go by quickly. Stay you a few sights for your information because there is a lot of misinformation out there.
thank you ...its just so hard ...especially around the kids.....I just keep thinking about not seeing them and want to cry....I have a special needs son and I look at him and it breaks my heart that I am even in this situation.....I just keep praying it dosent happen .....I want to go to bed and wake up a week from now..its just so hard all day ....I just keep hoping and praying .....your right and I am so stressed out I read a symptom then in a few minutes I start feeling it and then I convince my self I have it ....its awful ....
one of the things I'm banking on is it says about painful urination ... ihave not had that yet...and that seems to be a sign of it so well see its gonna be a lonnnnnnnnnng week
I wish you the best and keep me posted
well half way through today and nothing yet lol feeling bummed out though this sucks.....how did u get through it....
Honestly... day by day. I just concentrated on being a better husband. That's all I could do. Listen man, you're a guy who made a mistake..not the devil. Learn to forgive yourself and work on being a better husband. Do more of the things she wants to do. Shower her with compliments. Make her feel needed,viable and sexy. Just not all at once, they can sniff that out.lol. I know your a good guy or you wouldn't be heartbroken and scared. There are a lot of women and men who do things all the time and are not the least bit sorry. You're not one of them.
I know the pain you feel and everyday is like you get further into the abyss. In reality you are getting one day closers to normal. At 8 days you can start to feel more confident about not having hsv. Knowing what I know I highly doubt you have anything to fear. The problem is you are in an emotional state that dictates the worst. I wish you the best on this and you will be a better husband in the end. That I have no doubt.
I know the pain you feel and everyday is like you get further into the abyss. In reality you are getting one day closers to normal. At 8 days you can start to feel more confident about not having hsv. Knowing what I know I highly doubt you have anything to fear. The problem is you are in an emotional state that dictates the worst. I wish you the best on this and you will be a better husband in the end. That I have no doubt.
No thank you I need to read it twice it's helping me....I think if I get through this I will be a better husband and father ...I was good before but could have been better..I will be better and I will never never put my self in any situation like this again it is living hell...and I can't hardly fake it much more it's so hard...
I know. Keep moving forward and try and stay positive. For me this forum really helped. Life360 was the guy who helped me out more than I can say. I kept learning and researching. I have spoken with many of the top std experts this country has to offer. I even spoke with the lab techs at the University of Washington. They do the western blot. All so I could help others in need. Just my way of paying it forward. I was honored when they asked me to be a community leaders. Now I can't escape herpes.lol
I'm here if you need anything. You can pm me if you want.
I'm here if you need anything. You can pm me if you want.
Thank you....you have been the best...the only positive thing and source that has helped me...I think if not for you helping I probably would have a heart attack already....you do a true service for people thank you...I had a hour of feeling normal today it was the 1st one in a week....it felt amazing and when I'm not freaking out all the symptoms I have felt kinda went away....but just for a little bit...I just keep hoping and praying that I make it through this mistake with out life ruining repercussions
You will. Thank you for the kind words
Maze4200, reading your posts my heart breaks for you... I find myself in the same exact position on the same timeline. Last Tuesday I was in a LV StripClub and a lap dance lead to a quick handjob and I woke up the next morning with similar sensations/discomfort. Since then I've been scouring the web (last thing I should do) looking for reasons I don't have Herpes. I have found comfort from good people like FeelingUndone but the seconds feel like hours and I keep waiting for the Initial Outbreak, luckily it hasn't come yet.
I too have two children and a wife that I adore, I'm terrified thinking about what I've done to them. I want you to know that you are not alone and I'm right there with you. I will pray for you and wish you the best, I hope things work out for the both of us.
Fee free to PM me if you ever need to talk more.
I too have two children and a wife that I adore, I'm terrified thinking about what I've done to them. I want you to know that you are not alone and I'm right there with you. I will pray for you and wish you the best, I hope things work out for the both of us.
Fee free to PM me if you ever need to talk more.
Randall I think we are in the same **** Creek ....this has been the longest week of my life...I feel for you in would not wish this on anyone.....it's the worst I have ever felt in my life...you will be in my prayers as well which are about 100 times per day...mabye more...I hope we both make it through...I will never put my self in a sitatuatioj like this ever again....good luck man...thanks for your kind words and mine will be the 7th day tonight at 2 am....praying for us both....
No thank you your help has done more than you will ever know...
Guys there is one more thing I want to add. Stress is murder on the body. You both are under an extreme amount of it. Your body is always tense. This leads to back and leg pains and strange sensations.this is normal and will pass you start to get relief. It's not a sign of herpes. Again speaking from experience on this for sure.
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yes it is its awful....every time I read a symptom on line I get it about 10 min later ....I think that with all the stress my immune system is down to nothing so I am just waitng for the bumps to pop up...it horrible....I must check 10 time s a day to see if I have a outbreak...and with all the stress I feel the symptoms..head ache.i feel hot .sleeplessness, so then I think I have it even more...
its been 7 days and 6 hours now ...of this constant stress and worring
Stop reading about the symptoms. It gets better over time.
Ty I have I can't wait till I get good sleep again...it's exhusting...how long did it take you to feel half way normal again...thanknyou for all your help
It took me awhile. I think my 8 week test calmed me down a bit. I know it's hard but hang in there it does get easier. Can you remember any of the specifics from your exposure?
Not alot....a few flashes of things but nothing solid...that in could say yes I did or no indidnt....I think I remember her asking if I had a condom
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