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JUST diagnosed with herpes.
Hello. I am 20 years old and was diagnosed with herpes today. I am having a really really hard time grasping this. I know 20% percent of people in the US have this, but this is ME. I don't mean to sound selfish, but i just keep thinking of situations in my future where i will have to continually say "i have herpes". I was prescribed a medicine, Valacyclovir, that is supposed to help with the outbreaks and make me less contagious. It is so expensive even with my insurance i don't know how i am going to afford this every month. I have not told any one that i have this and i don't know how to break the news. Also one of the worst parts of this, I was not faithful to my boyfriend of two years. The guy i cheated on him with is the ******* who gave me the herpes. I don't know what to do. I love my boyfriend so much and he would leave me if he found out. Is there a way i could never have to tell him about this? We always use condoms and i will be taking this medicine so there should be little chance of him getting it right? I know that is so wrong and if i were to pass this on to him i don't know what i would do. I am in such a bad mindset right now i can't stop crying. I want to have babies some day and i have read so much about this being passed on to your children. That scares me to death. I am so glad this site exists. Please anyone talk to me about this.
its okay thank you very much. i didn't know about the depression, the doctor didn't tell me and it already runs in my family. my boyfriend will not understand. i know him. and i know i will have to learn to deal with it i had just gotten the news an hour before i wrote the post and its still hard for me to grasp.
Im sorry I wrote a whole page im just trying to help.
First off not to sound rude or harsh but this is just something you have to learn to just live with. And you cannot be selfish about be selfish about it. Your sex partner or partners will need to know. Whether you have protected sex or not. Ive had herpes since I was 18. I was raped. Im now 20 and pregnant with my first. Its not fair but I just leatned that no matter how much i want it ti its not goin away. Your just going to have to suck and tell your boyfriend cause your hurting him by not saying anything. He may be understanding or he may be an ***. People will look at you diffent if they know or you may think thw world knows and feel trapped. With that valtrex you have to be careful because depression is a side effect and it literally sneaks up on you. I was diagnosed with major depression and was back and forth thru hospitals for treatment cause I tried committing suicide. So please be careful and take the right dosages whether yoyvtake it everyday or just during and outbreak. Yoy can still have a life. You dont have to tell everyone but mainly your sex partners. I got over the initial shock after all the helpbi got. And getting a counselor or pysch will def help. I hang out with family band friends regularly I communicate more and just take everyday one day at a time. When I met my boyfriend we dated like regular ppl then I broke the news. He took it fine thankfully and he gets tested on a regular basis. And to this day he still hasnt contraxted the disease.
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