Partner having hsv 2

[Twitchers]

I tried searching first and found nothing maybe I am in the wrong forum.
So my prefered partner has HSV 2. I engage in unprotected sex with her but never during outbreaks. I have never shown infection and get tested in the region of every six months. My concern is not for me however but my son, my son's mother feels that my relationship with this woman puts him in danger of being infected just by being involved with her, and is threatening to not allow him to return to my home if I continue my relationship. My son is past diaper age and I always have washed up or applied sanitizer prior to interacting with my son if there is any risk of my contamination, ie it is morning time and my partner and I had been sexually intimate the night before.

What is the risk of her infecting my son? My partner doesn't wash him. The closest she gets to him physically is a hug or lifting him into a car or the like, no sharing food or drink. My partner and I don't engage in any Pda aside from a hug and maybe a light kiss.

Is my son's mother just in her fears or are they irrational?

[gracefromHHP]

there are absolutely no precautions to take in this situations other than routine precautions everyone should take regardless of their herpes status - never share toothbrushes, razors, towels, washcloths or body buffs - many common bacteria and viruses are very easily transmitted through sharing them.

if you aren't having sex with someone, your genital herpes isn't an issue at all.

grace

[Twitchers]

So what are the greatest areas of concern in such situation? Even if they are small chances... I am dealing with someone's overt paranoia and may need to address everything.

[gracefromHHP]

actually not washing your hands after going to the bathroom isn't going to result in transmission of the virus either.

grace

[Twitchers]

No she is very hygenic. Not excessivly so but more consistant than most.

[Conceredbutliving]

Like petal130 said basically chances are that your partner cannot spread it to your child, especially if they keep normal hygiene such as after touching their genital area they wash their hands now if they are the type of person who does not necessarily wash their hands after each bathroom use then there is a problem...

[Twitchers]

Thank you, I figure as much but I keep hearing her rattling off about this or that and that she has spoken to this or that doctor who agrees with her. My head has just been run around so much. I guess if comes right down to it and if I have to fight for him this should not be that much of an issue.

[petal130]

Genital herpes is called an STD for a reason - you have to have sex with the person to transmit it, hence it is not a risk to your son. A person with genital herpes can have the EXACT same contact with a child as anybody does.