I'm not sure what the exact percentage would be of transmitting to him, I'm sorry, I don't think those numbers are available. Intercourse is enough skin to skin contact to transmit herpes to him. The average time from intercourse to symptoms for him would be 5.5 days, but could be as long as 10 days. Has it been that long yet? Are you continuing to have sex with him? Have you thought more about telling him?
Terri
Please see previous questions. Thank you for the information.
I have not told him. I feel horrible. I know I need to talk to him now and he will probably hate me. Can you tell me the chances of spreading during an outbreak from one encounter? I'm assuming it is high but I can't find anything concrete on the forums. How much skin to skin contact is needed to spread? Would it be vigorous rubbing of just any contact? If it has been spread, how soon would he probably see symptoms? Thanks for your help in advance :(
I think the risk is certainly present for him. Condoms will reduce the risk of transmission by about 30%. It is worriesome, yes, but one encounter may not transmit the virus. I think you are just going to have to wait and see. Does he know that you have herpes? Have you discussed this with him since? What are your thoughts about doing that now?
Terri
I'm not sure how long it takes to get a response, but please don't forget about me out here. Struggling!