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I have genital herpes and I have had it since 1998. I am on suppressive therapy Valtrex 500mg once a day. I do not get outbreaks often. I messed up and did not tell my new partner completely out of fear that I have herpes. We have had protected sex (he wears condoms) and we had unprotected sex about 6 times within the last 2 years. (I feel TERRIBLE!!!!) I never had sex with him during an outbreak. I honestly swear on my life I never think about it. I actually have not had an outbreak while with him. I recently told him that I have genital herpes and he got a blood test. The results have not come back yet and I am afraid that he has it. I pray he does not. He has not had any outbreaks and I know that does not mean anything. In your opinion how likely is he to have it????? I know the 100% certainty will come from the test. I have been freaking out and feel like the worse person in the world. He would hate me if he finds out I lied to him. I vow to never do this again to ANYONE!!
Yes usually 4 days after infection. Did you have unprotected vaginal and oral sex in the few days before the outbreak happened?
Your tests since, have they been for HSV1 and HSV2?
Your tests since, have they been for HSV1 and HSV2?
In 98 I had a new partner & my ex & I had sex a couple of months prior to my new partner at that time. I am pretty certain I got the virus from my new partner at that time in 98 because my dr told me it had to come from a partner in a 20 day time period. I don't know how accurate but I believe the person from 98 gave it to me.
So in 1998 what was your sexual history in the two weeks leading into the outbreak? New partners? Oral sex etc.?
HSV1 and HSV2 can infect either oral or genital regions.
If you have HSV2 then yes it is a low percentage chance of transfer. HSV1 is even lower and may even be just about impossible if your partner already has HSV1.
HSV1 and HSV2 can infect either oral or genital regions.
If you have HSV2 then yes it is a low percentage chance of transfer. HSV1 is even lower and may even be just about impossible if your partner already has HSV1.
In 1998 I had an outbreak, went to the dr and based on my exam was told I have it. All my testing since have been positive for HSV I believe over 2. If his test comes up positive for HSV1 that is for cold sores correct? And not genital herpes? The main concern is HSV2. Which is sounds like its a low percentage that I passed the virus on to him. I am praying that is the case. Thank you again!
Do you have a type specific blood test for HSV1 and HSV2? Did you have a properly swabbed test from 1998?
The fact that you have had the virus for 16 years is a big plus in terms of potentially low shedding.
I mean to say that antivirals are the 'single' best measure, other measures do help as well but with lower effectiveness. Half of people with HSV1 cannot recall a cold sore.
The fact that you have had the virus for 16 years is a big plus in terms of potentially low shedding.
I mean to say that antivirals are the 'single' best measure, other measures do help as well but with lower effectiveness. Half of people with HSV1 cannot recall a cold sore.
Thank you! I told him but did not tell him since 98. I implied I just found out. I have both HSV 1 & 2. I never have any contact with any one during an outbreak and even days after one. I have been taking Valtrex for years now are you saying that lessens the likely hood of him having HSV 2? He stated he has never had a cold sore before so I do not think he has HSV1. Also, when you say protection for a negative male with a positive female do you mean by wearing a condom?
Thank you! I keep reading so many things about skin to skin contact and shedding skin. I have never read so many things on the internet before and it is freaking me out! I appreciate your feedback! The wait of these results are KILLING me. Thank you.
There is no judgment here. The decision to disclose or not is a personal one. The reality is that the majority of people do not disclose genital HSV. Most claim not to even know of the infection and many do not think it is a big deal. They are neither right or wrong. Only you can judge your actions and how you choose to live your life.
It does seem best that it is all now out in the open... but I do not understand your last comment 'if he finds out'... you indicate you have told him??
The odds depend on whether you have HSV1 or HSV2. Did you get accurately tested at the time for type or have a subsequent blood test?
The odds are low whichever way you look at it owing to antivirals. There is no better single protection for a HSV negative male having sex with a positive female.
The chances of infection are about 5% of those 2 years. He he has never had symptoms, then the odds are considerably lower. Also, you may both have HSV1 for example and thus there was no practical chance of infection.
It does seem best that it is all now out in the open... but I do not understand your last comment 'if he finds out'... you indicate you have told him??
The odds depend on whether you have HSV1 or HSV2. Did you get accurately tested at the time for type or have a subsequent blood test?
The odds are low whichever way you look at it owing to antivirals. There is no better single protection for a HSV negative male having sex with a positive female.
The chances of infection are about 5% of those 2 years. He he has never had symptoms, then the odds are considerably lower. Also, you may both have HSV1 for example and thus there was no practical chance of infection.
If you never had sex when your were having an outbreak, very high possibility he is not infected. Folks can have unprotected sex with an outbreak many times and still not contract it.
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