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Possible herpes exposure
I recently had sex with a woman, and before sex I asked her if she was clean and stated that I had recently been tested and came back negative. She said she hadnt had sex in a year and that she didnt have anything.
I had unprotected oral sex & protected sex with her (using a condom), It WASNT very rigorous sex and I ejaculated within 5 minutes. Out of paranoia and OCD, I normally use the bathroom after sex and wash my penis and urinate (which I did). When I was in her bathroom I noticed in her medicine cabinet she had a bottle that was marked "valacyclovir" which I didnt think twice about until I got home, googled and it came up as valtrex. I immediately contacted her by text message about why she was taking that, she called me and told me she didnt expect to have this conversation. She said she had genital HSV1 and has had it for over 10 years, and she didnt even think to tell me because she hasnt had an outbreak in 4 years. She said shes had many longterm sexual partners who have never contracted it from her and in her words she "cannot" spread it.
She said her outbreak was only on her anus when she had it, and uses the valtrex to deal with itching and burning she gets on her anus (she says she has never had it in/on her vagina) I may have had contact with the exposed parts of my penis and scrotum with her genitals. I have had cold sores in the past on my mouth and tested positive for HSV1 and negative for HSV2 as early as 2 months ago. She assures me that I wont get anything. When I got home, I immediately showered and used vinegar & rubbing alcohol in my genital area.
How worried should I be? this happened last night and Ive had a rough night of sleep thinking about this.
I figure if she'd lie about having genital HSV1 , its possible she'd lie about actually having HSV2 since HSV1 sounds more common....
I had unprotected oral sex & protected sex with her (using a condom), It WASNT very rigorous sex and I ejaculated within 5 minutes. Out of paranoia and OCD, I normally use the bathroom after sex and wash my penis and urinate (which I did). When I was in her bathroom I noticed in her medicine cabinet she had a bottle that was marked "valacyclovir" which I didnt think twice about until I got home, googled and it came up as valtrex. I immediately contacted her by text message about why she was taking that, she called me and told me she didnt expect to have this conversation. She said she had genital HSV1 and has had it for over 10 years, and she didnt even think to tell me because she hasnt had an outbreak in 4 years. She said shes had many longterm sexual partners who have never contracted it from her and in her words she "cannot" spread it.
She said her outbreak was only on her anus when she had it, and uses the valtrex to deal with itching and burning she gets on her anus (she says she has never had it in/on her vagina) I may have had contact with the exposed parts of my penis and scrotum with her genitals. I have had cold sores in the past on my mouth and tested positive for HSV1 and negative for HSV2 as early as 2 months ago. She assures me that I wont get anything. When I got home, I immediately showered and used vinegar & rubbing alcohol in my genital area.
How worried should I be? this happened last night and Ive had a rough night of sleep thinking about this.
I figure if she'd lie about having genital HSV1 , its possible she'd lie about actually having HSV2 since HSV1 sounds more common....
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As it has been said and we are now beating a dead horse. If you think you have herpes or fear about a bump be seen by your provider for a work up. This includes have them check it and if they feel it is herpes having a swab and culture/pcr performed. You have been told you aren't likely to get HSV-1 in a new location. If it is HSV-1 you need to be seen for the swab culture/pcr test to be done to prove you have it in that location. Be seen within 24-48hrs after symptoms show up so you can get an accurate test done. But as we have said chances are this is nothing to worry about. Be seen.
As it has been said and we are now beating a dead horse. If you think you have herpes or fear about a bump be seen by your provider for a work up. This includes have them check it and if they feel it is herpes having a swab and culture/pcr performed. You have been told you aren't likely to get HSV-1 in a new location. If it is HSV-1 you need to be seen for the swab culture/pcr test to be done to prove you have it in that location. Be seen within 24-48hrs after symptoms show up so you can get an accurate test done. But as we have said chances are this is nothing to worry about. Be seen.
I have an antibacterial barber spray I uses on the clipper blades after every use, I also wipe it down and dry it
I have 1 pimple like bump in the crotch area right now that developed from the red area the std clinic doctor said was nothing but follicle irritation, he didnt see the actual bump (which didnt show up until today)
should I wait 2 days and go back to my provider & show them?
I have 1 pimple like bump in the crotch area right now that developed from the red area the std clinic doctor said was nothing but follicle irritation, he didnt see the actual bump (which didnt show up until today)
should I wait 2 days and go back to my provider & show them?
well 4 different providers seeing your symptoms and not thinking that they look like herpes is a sign that it isn't herpes going on.
follow up with blood testing at the appropriate time if you need peace of mind.
meanwhile give your genital area some extra tlc for the next week or two. sometimes even something as simple as powdering yourself before getting dressed is helpful in reducing irritation as well as absorbs excess sweat. Soak in the bathtub once or two a day with epsom salts in too to help with irritation. I'd lay off on the shaving and clipping for a few weeks and be sure to change any disposable blades and properly clean clipper blades in case you have contamination on them adding to this all.
follow up with blood testing at the appropriate time if you need peace of mind.
meanwhile give your genital area some extra tlc for the next week or two. sometimes even something as simple as powdering yourself before getting dressed is helpful in reducing irritation as well as absorbs excess sweat. Soak in the bathtub once or two a day with epsom salts in too to help with irritation. I'd lay off on the shaving and clipping for a few weeks and be sure to change any disposable blades and properly clean clipper blades in case you have contamination on them adding to this all.
Ive been to 4 different doctors over the past 2 weeks who've told me visually that it was just irritation and ingrown hairs :(
I asked them if they did a test with swabs and they said it wasnt necessary
I dont know what to do :(
I asked them if they did a test with swabs and they said it wasnt necessary
I dont know what to do :(
whatever is going on, you now have risked spreading. you were seen and they didn't think it was herpes. no way for us to know what it is.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
if you are doubting her honesty about which type she has, you need to wait 3 months after the encounter for type specific herpes igg blood testing.
did you let her know that you have hsv1 orally when you had your "talk" prior to sex?
grace