Precautions And Risks

[Standardname]

I am in the early stages of a new relationship with a woman positive for hsv1 oral

We are attempting to find a comfort zone to manage risk

There will be much kissing and unprotected oral sex

We are seeing each other outside our regular relationships

We have had a lengthy discussion and would like input on our understanding of the risk assessment

We will refrain from kissing and oral during periods of outbreak until the cold sore is completely healed

She experiences a definite tingling 2-3 days before a cold sore develops. She develops cold sores approximately 3-4 times per year. We will refrain from kissing and oral during these periods of tingling

We don't plan on limiting activity during other times

I have read much and certainly understand there are no guarantees. I would like information and advice regarding our plan and whether it is a reasonable approach to dramatically reduce the risk of transmission. It is likely our periods of intimacy will only be a few times per month because of the nature of the relationship

I would like to know the level of risk using this strategy

[gracefromHHP]

it's totally your choice. it's still relatively low risk of contracting hsv1 genitally but not no risk.  Personally, in a situation like this, it's best to take full precautions since there are other partners involved.  

grace

[Standardname]

I would like to know whether our precautions without condoms for oral and not limiting kissing except during obvious outbreaks are a sound and reasonable approach

[gracefromHHP]

http://www.ashastd.org/herpes/herpes_learn_oralherpes.cfm  is a terrific site for more reading on hsv1 oral infections.

if you are concerned about contracting hsv1 genitally, only receive protected oral sex and avoid it and kissing anytime she has obvious cold sores.

grace

[Standardname]

I apologize for not including this in the original thread

In response to your questions I have been tested as negative hsv1 and hsv2

We have both been tested negative for all other std

We will use condoms for intercorse not oral

I appreciate any additional information you can provide

[gracefromHHP]

if you read our read before posting, you'll see that we suggest you just keep adding new questions to your original post and not make a new one each time. thank you for your future cooperation with this.

did you get tested yet to know your own status?

also have you both been tested for all other std's, including hsv2?

grace