My situation - 47yr old Male
In May I had what looked like it could be a herpes outbreak, one small sore on my glans. It popped up after a weekend of long sex sessions with my partner (I have a hard time cumming). This was about 3 weeks after unprotected oral sex with someone else. I had an IgG test which was negative. The 1st week of December I had another outbreak, in exactly the same spot, but worse, a cluster of about 6 sores (don't look like the pictures online, no white puss or oozing, but they do scab over). Had an IgG and IgM test, IgG came back (-), IgM (+), that is 2 (-) IgG tests and 1 (+) IgM. Other posts say to ignore IgM tests but the outbreaks look suspiciously like Herpes. The second outbreak was under the same conditions, lots of sex over 2 days, wake up Sunday morning with a red stripe from the urethra down to the left to the edge of the glans with some sores, basically right where my right hand puts pressure when I masturbate, which I was doing lots of too (to try to cum).
I have had shingles in the past, several outbreaks in my 20's. If I do have it I suspect I have had it for awhile since I have had tingling/pain in that area previously but never really connected it to anything. When younger I also had sex to the point of getting a sore in that area from "abrasion". I have pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I have herpes but if there is another possibility I would love to hear it.