Was diagnosed last year with HSV 2 from a positive culture....just wrote a long story on here that was deleted because it exceeded the limit for characters. I worried for weeks that i may have been the carrier and given it to the man i had been seeing, long distance, for 2 years. We had gotten together in his town and I mistakenly suggested we not use a condom this time (he ALWAYS made sure we did) in the heat of the moment. Week later i had sore blisters. A month later i went for a blood test to find out if it was new infection. The test was negative for HSV 2 antibodies, was told 95% likelihood it WAS a new infection. I had not been with another man for 3 years before meeting him. Didn't tell him right away, was waiting until we got together again, and in the meantime a lot happened in my life - there was a hurricane that flooded VT and I lost my job due to that. This man does not communicate well and we would text or email in between visits, but he works a lot of hours and would go days/weeks without connecting, then resurface, wanting to see me. didn't tell him until i accidentally discovered on facebook that he was getting involved with a woman in his area. Left a msg on his phone, about that, and about the herpes...not blaming, just telling him. Later sent email telling him i was NOT blaming, just blurted it out, and it had not changed my feelings for him. I have yet to hear from him, and am hurting, still. Can a man be so embarrassed and ashamed that they don't know how to talk about a situation like this?? He very much respected and liked me, and had feelings for me. How can i help him break his silence about this?