Originally, i wanna post a question in STD's Forum, and need some help from Dr. H. Hunter. But the forum is not accepting new poster, will it reopening or not ? And any other approach to refer to Dr. H. Hunter ?
And here is my story:
I come from China, I had diagnozed to have genital herpers early this month due to very typical symptoms, though i had no blood test yet and had no idea which type i had yet. I was so scared, very worried to transmit this disease to my wife. Then I looked back to see what i had done in the past few months.
Oct 27th, unprotected oral and condom protected vaginal sex with a massage woman. After that, i can't remember whether i had sex with my wife.
Nov. 7th, my wife had a severe fever and flu-like symptom. 3 days later, Nov 10th, i had the same symptom like hers. I thought my flu was affected by my wife at that time. Both of us didn't have any obvious blisters or discomforts in genital areas.
Dec, 5th, I had condom protected sex with my wife.
Dec, 9th, I had unprotected oral and condom protected vaginal sex with another massage woman.
Dec, 17th three blisters appeared on the edge of pubic hair area. The doctor was a idiot, only gave me some anit-bacteria drug.
Jan 1st, the previous sores were not recovered yet while three new blisters break out near the order ones.
So above is some key time points i can remember. My question is :
1) Does the flu-like symptom my wife and i had relate to first HSV outbreak ? even we dont have any blisters? And if i was affected by the exposure on Oct. 27th, do i have transmitted abiliity before i have initial outbreak ? If yes, does condom help a lot for protection ?
2) If i was affected by the second high risk sex, what should i do to protect my wife and son ? In China, HSV was treated as very horrible disease due to our lack of full knowledge on this. It is said it could be objective transmitted, like tailets, bath, or even savila.
My concern is do i need to wash my outer clothes sperately ?
Do I need to use my own toilet ?
Do I need to sleep apart with my family, even i wear underwares ?
Can I goes to swimming pool or hotspring without affecting other peaple? Of course, during my asymtomatic stage.
3) I am going to confess my fault to my family after our chinese new year, which is a very important festival for us . So I hope we can have a happy holiday before we have to face this uncomfortable topic. In China, the blood test is not so reliable, you might have negative results in 4 different tests, while you have very obvious HSV symptoms. Now my wife has no blisters findings. But i found she had itch on her labia and anus. But she always had eczema on her labia before. So I am not sure whether these things relate to affection by HSV. If i brought her to do blood test, and the result is negative, how can we identify whether she was affected or not ?
Anybody helps me, i am really appreciate your help from oversea !