Thank you SO MUCH for your help with this!! GP
your overall risk is so low as it is, it's certainly not worth taking any added precautions for. Ask yourself - how would you feel is someone got up to wash their hands during sex with you or kept purell at the bedside and kept reaching for it or something? Your risk is 1%/year with all you are doing - it's not worth doing anything else for.
grace
Thanks so much for your response, but I am not sure that I understand. While making love to this woman, I am using protection (condoms), start to finish, for intercourse, and using barriers for oral sex (me going down on her), but it has occurred to me that I have also been fondling her genital area with my hands and then touching other things--my penis, her breasts, etc. I am wondering if there is a danger in this and if so how much of a danger this constitutes. Should I avoid all hand to genital contact or stop and wash my hands before touching anything else (which needless to say would put quite a damper on the lovemaking). As I say, she has genital herpes, but has not had an outbreak for many years and she is taking daily antiviral medicine. Thanks, GP
the risk is with the actual foreplace and sex act, not just hand to genital contact.
grace