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Unprotected sex 5 weeks ago
I had unprotected sex 5 weeks ago with a woman I did not know and now I am extremely depressed, anxious, etc over the idea I may have contacted hsv-2. During the encounter, I also performed oral sex on her for maybe 1 minute. I did not ejaculate inside her..not that it probably matters. After two weeks I noticed a sore throat was developing. I should also note, I do have bad allergies. Initially I thought it was just that and the changing of the seasons. I also started having issues urinating. I didn't burn, but I felt like I always had to pee even when I didn't have. Almost like I had pee still left in my penis. A week later my throat got worse and I got a really bad headache. The severe headache lasted maybe 3 days, then got better. Over the 2-3 weeks of sickness, I was definitely suffering from severe anxiety and panic attacks. I was getting maybe 2-4 hours of sleep a night, and woke up with extremely dry eyes, throat, mouth every morning. I think I was very dehydrated..probably didn't help with my headache. I also started to experience tenderness in my testicles. No pain at all, maybe just because I was constantly thinking about them. I've always had issues urinating, especially when stressed. For instance, whenever I ejaculated in the past I always feel like I have to pee afterward and it would take me a good 15-30 minutes before I could pee.
At 21 days I got tested, and was negative for everything except HSV-1 (blood and urine tests). I don't ever remember having any cold sores...so I must have gotten it when I was young like most people. At about 28 days I went to my primary doctor and was tested for strep, negative. But she said I had what looked like healing lesions in my throat. Said it was a "stumper" to her because my lymph nodes seemed fine. She said I may have had strep but could be getting over it already and thus tested negative. I'm not sure if that makes any sense....but she also said I could have mono but there's no need to test for it because there's nothing they can do for it anyway.
After going home and checking my throat myself, I also noticed I had a white tongue. Going on day 38, my throat is much better but I still have a little white going on with my tongue and started to notice a thicker saliva. I still don't have any lesions on my penis or anything else, but I now have noticed some red spots on my shaft. I've never really studied my penis before...so it's hard for me to tell if they are new...normal...or what. They definitely don't hurt, itch, or have any fluid in them.
It is really hard for me to make any sense of all this or know what I should do. I got tested at 21 days, but that's most likely too early to know so I know I need to go back after 4 months...but I am really struggling with it until then. Is 5 weeks too late for herpes blisters to appear? If they did appear...would they be mole sized red spots that are flat, not that close to each other, and do not hurt or itch. Could it be irritated skin due to anxiety, and checking a lot? Thank you for your help...it is appreciated more than you know.....
At 21 days I got tested, and was negative for everything except HSV-1 (blood and urine tests). I don't ever remember having any cold sores...so I must have gotten it when I was young like most people. At about 28 days I went to my primary doctor and was tested for strep, negative. But she said I had what looked like healing lesions in my throat. Said it was a "stumper" to her because my lymph nodes seemed fine. She said I may have had strep but could be getting over it already and thus tested negative. I'm not sure if that makes any sense....but she also said I could have mono but there's no need to test for it because there's nothing they can do for it anyway.
After going home and checking my throat myself, I also noticed I had a white tongue. Going on day 38, my throat is much better but I still have a little white going on with my tongue and started to notice a thicker saliva. I still don't have any lesions on my penis or anything else, but I now have noticed some red spots on my shaft. I've never really studied my penis before...so it's hard for me to tell if they are new...normal...or what. They definitely don't hurt, itch, or have any fluid in them.
It is really hard for me to make any sense of all this or know what I should do. I got tested at 21 days, but that's most likely too early to know so I know I need to go back after 4 months...but I am really struggling with it until then. Is 5 weeks too late for herpes blisters to appear? If they did appear...would they be mole sized red spots that are flat, not that close to each other, and do not hurt or itch. Could it be irritated skin due to anxiety, and checking a lot? Thank you for your help...it is appreciated more than you know.....
we don't look at pictures here. why not is explained in our read before posting post.
Hi Grace, I am out of town for work so I will see a doctor when I am back in town. I have uploaded photos of my throat sores for anyone that wants to look at what I'm dealing with. Obviously I can't upload photos of the other areas...But maybe this can help determine what this is...or help out for others after I have seen a doctor.
http://s1271.photobucket.com/albums/jj632/mnonymously/
http://s1271.photobucket.com/albums/jj632/mnonymously/
Grace, I should also mention after a week of this encounter I started heavily self medicating...for a while i was taking expired penicillin from an old prescription (stupid...but a decision based on fear). I was also taking about 3000mg of ibuprofen and 3000mg of acetaminophen (for the fever I started getting after two weeks). I felt like I had a fever, but never registered one. Not at home or at the doctors when I went in. I also took nyquil at night, because I was sick of sleeping 3 hours a night. I don't know if any of this could affect my original STD testing at 20 days, or if it could be causing any of my symptoms. I didn't start self medicating though until after I got my sore throat and started to feel ill. Thanks again.
Grace, I apologize if I seem like I am asking the same thing. Not my intention. I am just desperate to have some hope, because I honestly feel I'm in denial and I am very much struggling with it. Since I last posted, the red spots on my penis have seemed to have spread. Almost all look normal, but just red. But two of them now look like they are very circular, with a second circle inside. The outer circle is normal colored with a red outline. The inner circle is more solid red. I really can't say if they are "ulcers" or just spots. Another thing about them, I initially didn't think they hurt. Well, they don't hurt normally. But when I push on them with a bit of force, I can feel that there's something there. I know this is all very vague. But now this, combined with being sick for almost 4 weeks with a very sore red throat with what the doctor told me had "ulcers" in them...is making me very nervous. I have contacted the woman (33, I am 29) and she swears she is clean and was tested in January but ignored when I ask about being tested for herpes. She has become extremely upset with me even talking about this and doesn't respond to me anymore (texts). This was total failure in my regular good judgement and I am devastated at this point. All I can think is she may know, and just didn't care. I met her at a bar, and she hit on me. Picked me up. Took me home to her place. I am not trying to sound like the victim, but it just makes me think she either is in denial herself or is a very very cruel person. I am sorry for my rant, any response is again very very appreciate.
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