Hi Doctor/Nurse,
i'm a 40 year old male. I did have herpes on my nose approximately 20 years ago with blisters that broke and then maybe had one outbreak shortly thereafter. I never had an outbreak on my lip or anywhere else. Never had anything since then that I know of.Approximately four weeks ago, I had unprotected oral and vaginal sex with a female three to four times in the course of a week. I later had sex with her again two weeks ago(oral and vaginal). I've known her family for years and assumed it was safe. Three days after the second encounter, i started feeling a slight tingling/irritation on the corner of my lip. the area approximately half the size of an eraser head, simply got a little red and irritated. There were no blisters, no lesions or inflamation. I remembered giving her oral and scraping the corner of my lip against her shaved pubic hairs and assumed they irritated my lip and thought nothing of it. I read somewhere that it might be a slight irritation or infection. A couple of days later, I had oral and vaginal sex with my girlfriend. approximately 5-6 days later, she started complaining of irritation and slight pain in the vagina area. I feel terrible for not taking precautions and potentially what I might have done to her with my poor judgement. So the questions are:
1) What are the chances it was herpes, with no blisters, swelling, just redness and no cluster of bumps.
2) If she does have genital herpes from me and we get married, are there any long term negatives besides the bumps and pain of recurrence to a married couple
3) If I did give her genital herpes orally, can she now give me that same infection to my genital area if we have sex? If yes, how long should I wait before having sex with her