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[confused399]

My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years. Two and a half years ago he found out that he has hsv-2. He had started having outbreaks and had a test done at the doctor's office, which came back positive. He did not tell me about it until a year later. I have never had any kind of outbreaks, oral or genital. I had my gyn do a test on me and it came back positive hsv-1, but negative for hsv-2. So I was wanting to know what does this mean? Why don't I have hsv-2 and will I get it? We don't have much of a sex life anymore and I really don't want one because of this.

[gracefromHHP]

well his taking daily suppressive therapy is helping to protect you.  You might be with him for the rest of your life and never contract his herpes if he is taking precautions to protect you.

did you both cover your full std testing bases too?

[confused399]

Yes, a few years ago.

[gracefromHHP]

do you suspect that he's had other partners?

[Mistakeguy789]

If he is on daily suppresive therapy the risk for you is quite low about 96% chance a year you won't get it if you avoid sex when anything is going on genitally.  Use a condom and that number goes down more.  But in your case the risk is low and he knows what an outbreak is and when will come on so that is helpful in prevention of transmission.  Did you read the handbook grace gave you?

[confused399]

We really don't have sex anymore, maybe once or twice a year. He didn't start taking Valtrex until after he told me about it. And if doesn't take the med regulary, he starts having outbreaks again.

[gracefromHHP]

it means he had it before he married you and never knew it or he acquired it from someone other than you during your marriage.  

do you two take any precautions to reduce your risk of contracting hsv2 from him? is he on daily suppressive therapy?

the herpes handbook is free to read online at www.westoverheights.com. it's well worth both of you reading if you haven't so far.

grace