I realize that there are a ton of responses for rate of transmission for herpes, but they are all from quite a bit ago. I have genital HSV-1, I got it from my second partner who must have given it to me through oral sex, but I guess I'll never be 100 percent sure. It has been a year and 3 months since my initial outbreak, and I had a second OB a month post-initial OB. Anyways, I'm talking to this new guy (we're not dating or official but we may as well be) and we haven't had sex and he's not pressuring me whatsoever. But I want to have sex, but I also don't want to tell him because we have the same circle of friends and if something doesn't work out I can't bare to see him out. Sooo...I just want to know the transmission rates. I'm not saying I'll have sex with him w/out him knowing, but honestly it's the most difficult thing. I don't have a bad rep nor have I ever had a bad rep. I'm not a **** and this def does not make me one, it's just hard the stigma blows big time. Therefore, that's a little background of myself and why I want to know this. I know this question can get annoying, but it's 2011... there's gotta be some research that has taken place to be more informed on this topic, yea? Please let me know.