I didnt know i had herpes...how do i tell him now?!? PLEASE HELP!

[devastatedbeyondbelief1121]

Ok well let me start off by saying i am a good person, always followed the rules, did good in school, i have a few friends that are my family, im 21, living on my own, single. I should be young, wild and free right? well thats how i have been living my life since i was 18 doing all the things kids my age do. Party, drink and yes sex. Well everything has been going great in my life like i said i have my own place, a good job. Well i got my annual std screening not really thinking much of it, so i went out the friday after i got tested (still didnt know my results) and met this guy. Hes a friend of a friend hes 29, sooo damn cute, funny, smart, stable just an awesome guy. Well we were drinking friday and ended up sleeping together (no condom) and yes i know that was stupid please dont lecture me. We slept together friday night and saturday night it was awesome. I dont know how he feels about the situation but he seems interested and i def am. well floating on cloud 9 and i got the call from my doc monday....i tested positive for HSV-2 with high levels so i doubt its a false positive....cloud burst and i hit the ground hard....how on earth do i explain to this guy that i didnt know i had it?? NO symptoms nothing to indicate i had it....i am so afraid that when i tell him my dream man will be gone :( i just dont know how to approach this and i want to tell him he has a right to know i just dont know how and like i said i dont want to lose him. PLEASE someone help me...i thought about not telling him for a couple weeks and not sleep together again in that time actually get to know each other better and then tell him. So hopefully by then he will like me for me and will be more understanding and still wanna date or at the very least be friends (hoping for more)...i just dont know. Please someone help....i feel just awful...and idk what to do...

[Life360_Dave]

Hi also, just find a quite time and do tell him. Dont use words like "terrible" and "disease" but use words that are very matter of fact. Studies have showed that people can be very acceptive of this. The only issue to overcome is that you got the test back after being intimate with him. Depending how he feels about you will show the response from him. Also tell him that people can contract it even using comdoms. Maybe suggest that he tests now just to confirm if he already has it as is some somewhat prevelant  in sexually active people.

[whatnow2013]

First, I'm sorry for your situation.  This may sound insensitive ... you should put his feelings and needs first.  You can't control the outcome ... show him you care and that you respect him by telling him ASAP ... what will be will be.