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how do you tell new partner you have hsv 1 gentally.
I was with my partner exclusively sine I was eighteen . I am now thirty one and have been diagnosed with hsv 1. My partner was militAry and did stray over seas. He has not been checked for it and when I got diagnosed with it he told me he accepted me and loved me not matter what. Because I forgave him when he cheated. A month after the Christmas holidays he left me saying he couldn't deal with me having herpes like he thought he could. He didn't feel that he could accept me while being afraid he may catch it. This makes me feel dirty because he was my only and took my virginity so how could I have gotten it if he was the one that cheated. I didn't. Well I dealt with him leaving and thought that my dating life is over . Severe depression and thoughts of how I feel disgusting and nasty and ruined because I have this. I met someone after while and he is great. However I haven't told him Bout my diagnosis as we have not been intimate with one another. We took our time. My new guy says he loves me. Wants to be with me and is ready to take the step. He is ready to be intimate. I feel that its time to be honest and tell him about my diagnosis. I don't know how to go about it and I'm terrified that I will lose him . He says there is nothing I can say that will change his opinion of me or stop him from being with me but I really feel like me having herpes will make him leave. He is a greT guy Nd I don't want to lose him but know I have to tell him. Please give me some advice dealing with depression since my diagnosis hasn't been easy but losing him would be a lot worse.
no dark circles don't mean serious illness.
follow up with your provider for any sleep issues you are having.
follow up with your provider for any sleep issues you are having.
Hello . I know I ask lots of questions. But I think now I'm being paranoid. But feel better asking..I have been going to work and everyone asks me why am I so pale or telling me I look tired . Have been working a lot and noticed dark circles under eyes . I am only thirty one is this normal to be this tired all the time. Sometimes I sleep good and feel great and sometimes I can't sleep and feel horrible. But there are also times I sleep two hours and feel great or sleep all night and feel horrible. Can this especially the dark circles mean serious illness? Also had tested for hiv four years ago and again this April and both were negative through an oraquick advanced rapid test. Is it safe to say tbe result were accurate and I don't have hiv? Scared again.
Thanks again. I guess I was just upset and thinking about things to much that I thought what if? I am going to have to look into talking to someone for the depression. I thought i was starting to come to grips with it and was happy with this new guy but it turned out I am right back to being depressed. when I'm at work and out keeping busy I am okay. but once I sit still and have nothing to do then I have time to think about things and that's when I have noticed the depression hits me the most. thanks again for listening
you had a + lesion culture for hsv1. no reason to think it was actually syphilis.
if you need the peace of mind then by all means test for syphilis but it's not likely you have it.
if you need the peace of mind then by all means test for syphilis but it's not likely you have it.
hello again and thanks for responding. I do have some questions regarding both herpes and syphilis and they may sound sort of silly and I may be wrong but going to ask them anyway. I have looked up information online about syphilis and it seems like some of the symptoms are similar to herpes. I noticed that with both of them you can have swollen glands. I have had two outbreaks and have had the swollen glands. could my result have been confused? Also it also said that syphilis comes in stages the tertiary stage being the last one. and that in the tertiary stage it can affect your spinal and nervous system . also like herpes it outbreaks and then Goes back in the body no longer visible. when herpes isn't visible does it go into your nervous system? And if so how come they can cure syphilis by a shot of penicillin or shots depending on how many it takes to get it all gone. but they can't do The same for herpes? plus what if like me the person is allergic to penicillin what else can they treat it with? Thanks again for responding. you have always had such patience with me and had such kindness when answering all my questions. you are truly awesome.
most of us are very low risk for syphilis. totally up to you if you want to pursue testing for it.
yes, syphilis is easily cured if detected early.
yes, syphilis is easily cured if detected early.
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
