you could be with her a lifetime without contracting her herpes.
at this point, ask her some more questions. find out if she has hsv1 or hsv2. ask how she treats her herpes.
also it's well worth taking the time to read Terri warren's free herpes handbook. just google it and it comes right up.
you also will need tested to know your own status too. you can't make educated decisions about precautions until you know who has what.
keep asking questions!
grace
what type does your wife have? have you ever been tested to know your status?