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non-disclosed symp. hsv-1
I contracted Hsv-1 on my genitals when i was 18 from what i believe was oral-genital contact that caused it..I had a terrible outbreak and went to the doctor..He confirmed visually that it was herpes and insisted on testing..The initial results came back negative..I went into denial from the results and went about my life..a couple months later i broke out again and tested positive for Hsv-1..
I am now 23 and have had only one outbreak in the last year, which went by in less than a week very fast and painless..It's been about a year since the last outbreak and I now have started dating again..I met this girl with whom the first night we met, had unprotected sex..It's been 3 mos. since then and we've been in a great monogamous relationship without any problems..After we met the first night however, I agreed to get tested for stds so we can have unprotected sex and they all came up negative..I did not get tested for herpes and I did not tell her that i had herpes when i was younger..
I feel like a scumbag. The stigma of having herpes is nothing compared to lying to this girl and possibly infecting her if I haven't already..She hasn't broke out or gotten infected and i haven't had any breakouts or any problems..i feel really bad that i've been lying about this. I'm really scared for the day that she does have a problem and I feel like i should lie again to cover up the fact...
My questions are..
In my case, how likely is it that I will infect her.. genital-oral or genital-genital..?
What are the chances I will re-infect myself if I do transmit this disease?
What is the best thing for me to do?
I am now 23 and have had only one outbreak in the last year, which went by in less than a week very fast and painless..It's been about a year since the last outbreak and I now have started dating again..I met this girl with whom the first night we met, had unprotected sex..It's been 3 mos. since then and we've been in a great monogamous relationship without any problems..After we met the first night however, I agreed to get tested for stds so we can have unprotected sex and they all came up negative..I did not get tested for herpes and I did not tell her that i had herpes when i was younger..
I feel like a scumbag. The stigma of having herpes is nothing compared to lying to this girl and possibly infecting her if I haven't already..She hasn't broke out or gotten infected and i haven't had any breakouts or any problems..i feel really bad that i've been lying about this. I'm really scared for the day that she does have a problem and I feel like i should lie again to cover up the fact...
My questions are..
In my case, how likely is it that I will infect her.. genital-oral or genital-genital..?
What are the chances I will re-infect myself if I do transmit this disease?
What is the best thing for me to do?
I have to tell you that it's only right to always disclose your HSV-1, with the person you decide to have a relationship with. It's wrong to keep this from someone who you care about, or even if it's a one night stand. Give that person the choice to decide what is right for them.
This ruined my marriage! My marriage has been falling apart for sometime and I try so hard to rekindle what we built. Early this year I tested postive for HSV-2 and learned that my husband knew he had HSV-2 and failed to inform me. That's not the reason why we are separating, we no longer communicate or feel the same for each other. But I have been bitter tores him for keeping this from me. It doesn't matter if he had before we married or caught during our marriage. The fact is I had the right to know and to make the choice.
Please visit the links provided above to help you disclose this to your partner, so she is tested.
Best wishes
This ruined my marriage! My marriage has been falling apart for sometime and I try so hard to rekindle what we built. Early this year I tested postive for HSV-2 and learned that my husband knew he had HSV-2 and failed to inform me. That's not the reason why we are separating, we no longer communicate or feel the same for each other. But I have been bitter tores him for keeping this from me. It doesn't matter if he had before we married or caught during our marriage. The fact is I had the right to know and to make the choice.
Please visit the links provided above to help you disclose this to your partner, so she is tested.
Best wishes
Didn't you feel wronged when someone didn't disclose something to you and you got it??
Don't do that to someone else please.
Don't do that to someone else please.
hey you should look at my post at http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/534128 that has gotten some feedback on the same issue. i'm glad you said that you feel like **** because i've been wondering if i should disclose or not when i'm able to start dating again. (i just got out of the long term relationship with the guy who infected me and didnt disclose (oral to genital transmission) and recommend that i dont either in future (yeah...he wasn't much of a winner:) ) and i think you just pretty much made the decision for me. no decent lasting relationship can be built on lies. so if you decide to tell her, here's a link to a site with some stats and a good article for her to read. the chances of passing it on are pretty small and once you've got it, you've got it for life. you won't "Reinfect" yourself, because the infection is just dormant in your system. http://www.herpes.com/hsv1-2.html
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