Grace, Please Help!!

[concernedgrl]

I am reposting this to try to find some more opinions...I am a female and three days ago I had a threesome with another girl and a guy.  The guy has nothing, but the girl has Herpes.  She does not have any symptoms as of right now.  I did not actually have intercourse with the guy.  The only contact was from him having oral sex with her, then having oral sex with me.  What are the chances that I could have Herpes?  Also, I have read that it takes 2-20 days on average to appear.  What is a more accurate amount of time that it would probably appear if I do have it?  I do not have any obvious symptoms yet.  I'm very worried and need some advice!!  Thanks!

[gracefromHHP]

I'm totally with waringblender on this one - you were not at risk of contracting hsv2 thru receiving oral sex from this fellow after he had oral sex with her. Did you and this gal have any skin on skin contact? Do you know if she has hsv1 or hsv2 genitally? Do you know if she's on daily suppressive therapy or not? Have you ever had a herpes blood test yourself to know your own status?

grace

[waringblender]

That kind of contact is too indirect. It's not going to happen. I wouldn't worry about this episode. She may have herpes, but that doesn't mean she was shedding virus or that she was contagious at the moment you received oral sex from the guy who performed oral sex on her. It's just too indirect of an exposure to warrant any meaningful concern. Besides that, oral sex is just a difficult way to contract an STD. The only risk I can see here is if the GUY had a cold sore on his lip and then went down on you.