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2nd time Im posting this question...thoughts/opinions/advice please!!!!
Hi there,
2 and a half years ago I was diagnosed with GW's, I had them treated and have been clear for 27 months. I have been seeing a guy for about 5months now, he is great, we are serious about each other, theres talk of moving in next year and future plans (marraige etc).
We'v been using protection during sex, however we would both like to go without. The problem is, he does not know about my GW's 2,5yrs ago...
Now I know that by now, it is very, very unlikely they will reoccur or infect someone else (ie: him), but Im still terrified they might, if not now, possibly in the future! I'm also unsure wether I should tell him or not...I mean, NOBODY knows about my GW's, its not the kind of thing I would talk about and I REALLY dont want to lose him!
Its like if they never come back and infect him, maybe theres no point...but if they did, say when I was pregnant, what would I say!!?? Its really messing up my head...
Please help??
2 and a half years ago I was diagnosed with GW's, I had them treated and have been clear for 27 months. I have been seeing a guy for about 5months now, he is great, we are serious about each other, theres talk of moving in next year and future plans (marraige etc).
We'v been using protection during sex, however we would both like to go without. The problem is, he does not know about my GW's 2,5yrs ago...
Now I know that by now, it is very, very unlikely they will reoccur or infect someone else (ie: him), but Im still terrified they might, if not now, possibly in the future! I'm also unsure wether I should tell him or not...I mean, NOBODY knows about my GW's, its not the kind of thing I would talk about and I REALLY dont want to lose him!
Its like if they never come back and infect him, maybe theres no point...but if they did, say when I was pregnant, what would I say!!?? Its really messing up my head...
Please help??
Hi,
I really appreciate the chatting...makes me feel...less of an "outcast!"
I went to see a specialist today, who checked everywhere and said that everything was clear still, that I was lucky and unlikely to see any again...reassuring:)!
He also said, which I found very interesting, that roughly 70% of ppl get the wart virus, but that only 1-3% ever show symptoms and that it was really something very minor, which is also somewhat comforting.
Has your hubby shown any symptoms?-hope you dont mind me prying
To be honest, I dont really care about me having it, Iv only had it once and it was nothing, really...but I do worry how my BF will feel about it, I mean ppl dont mean to react badly, but in the moment and out of fear, ppl do...or they try be composed but when it comes to the bedroom, I would imagine it would be the only thing they can think about, thinking "what if he gets it, we dont work out and then he is in my shoes"...
Still batteling with if/how/when to say this...so tough! Your lucky you already have someone who loves you, 'warts and all'-excuse the pun:).
Im sure you'll be just fine, they are completely harmless and if you have any questions or need a chat, feel free.
Thanks for listening to me vent:). Take care.
I really appreciate the chatting...makes me feel...less of an "outcast!"
I went to see a specialist today, who checked everywhere and said that everything was clear still, that I was lucky and unlikely to see any again...reassuring:)!
He also said, which I found very interesting, that roughly 70% of ppl get the wart virus, but that only 1-3% ever show symptoms and that it was really something very minor, which is also somewhat comforting.
Has your hubby shown any symptoms?-hope you dont mind me prying
To be honest, I dont really care about me having it, Iv only had it once and it was nothing, really...but I do worry how my BF will feel about it, I mean ppl dont mean to react badly, but in the moment and out of fear, ppl do...or they try be composed but when it comes to the bedroom, I would imagine it would be the only thing they can think about, thinking "what if he gets it, we dont work out and then he is in my shoes"...
Still batteling with if/how/when to say this...so tough! Your lucky you already have someone who loves you, 'warts and all'-excuse the pun:).
Im sure you'll be just fine, they are completely harmless and if you have any questions or need a chat, feel free.
Thanks for listening to me vent:). Take care.
Hi, I was just diagnosed with gw a month ago after being married 15 years
I am still somewaht in shock but the more I see how common this really is and the more I see that its not too big of a deal the less I am worried. I had the noticible big one (the thing that brought me to the dr in the 1st place) removed surgically and he told me I had about 5 others that I wasnt aware of . I had them treated with cryo 3 times and the last time he said they were gone but did the cryo on the area anyway just to make sure. I hope they never come back!
I am still somewaht in shock but the more I see how common this really is and the more I see that its not too big of a deal the less I am worried. I had the noticible big one (the thing that brought me to the dr in the 1st place) removed surgically and he told me I had about 5 others that I wasnt aware of . I had them treated with cryo 3 times and the last time he said they were gone but did the cryo on the area anyway just to make sure. I hope they never come back!
Hi there,
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply...
I feel it is the right thing to do to tell him, but I would be devestated if he did a runner!
Did you at some point have to tell a partner? How did that go? And can you give me any pointers/advice on how/when to broach this?
Also I note that youv been married 15yrs, I assume also you have had GW's/HPV...have your recurred over the years or not...just like to gauge how likely I am to have a recurrence after this time.
Thank you again and look forward to hearing from you!!
Thanks so much for taking the time to reply...
I feel it is the right thing to do to tell him, but I would be devestated if he did a runner!
Did you at some point have to tell a partner? How did that go? And can you give me any pointers/advice on how/when to broach this?
Also I note that youv been married 15yrs, I assume also you have had GW's/HPV...have your recurred over the years or not...just like to gauge how likely I am to have a recurrence after this time.
Thank you again and look forward to hearing from you!!
If it were me I would tell your guy. If you are serious about one another this is something he should be aware of. I know that it is akward and gross but if you show him the stats on this infection and indicate how you havent had a relapse in 2.5 years, indicating that your body may have cleared it or that it is in a dormant state, Im sure both of your minds will be at rest. More people need to be educated about this affliction. I myself am shocked that I was unaware of it until my own diagnosis. I can tell you that I certainly would have wanted to know if either of my 2 sexual partners before my husband of 15 years (or even my husband himself) knew they had warts and could possibly transmit them to me.
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