First off, I have been reading through some of these threads and if one comment stuck out it was the person who reminded me not to be a worry wart about the subject. Thank you for the in poor taste shameless pun. I laughed very hard.
Anyway, I joined the party a few days ago after a very disappointing diagnosis and I quickly realized my previously carefree sex life is pretty much over. I am a great looking 26 yo male, but no matter how good looking I am and how personable I can be I cannot see how I can ever be attractive to anyone after the words Genital Warts leave my mouth. I am aware that it is possibly the most benign STD, that the symptoms will likely never come back after a period of up to 2 years, that it is very common, and a lot of other somewhat but not completely comforting information. Still even after I develop immunities I will be a carrier and will continue to pose a risk, however small, of transmission to future sexual partners. Because I cannot in good conscience knowingly expose others to this unpleasantness without at least informing them of their risk I am at an impasse. Who in their right mind would willingly take a gauranteed risk of exposure to an STD on the hope that it might work out with someone youve just started dating? Other problem, this now puts a massive amount of pressure on the importance of sex in a relationship. It used to be, in my somewhat wreckless and irresponisble world, that sex was just something that happened as you were getting to know someone, usually between the third and fifth date and often times much sooner. It didnt mean you were going to get married or that you were in a serious relationship it just meant you were willing to explore intimacy with someone. Since sex will now be a discussion of an ugly social stigma, my feelings of self-loathing/disgust, and where this relationship is going, how is my life not ruined? I feel like it is now kinda out of the question to sleep with a girl after telling her this and not have her expect a whole lot more than women already do in return for intimacy. Im only 26, Im not looking for marriage, or long term relationships(I may have to ammend this position) and very attractive girls have been presenting themselves to me quite frequently lately. Fact is I already have enough problems with connecting to people and this sure as hell isn't helping.
I don't actually expect anyone on here to have any answers I am just happy I could vent some of this somewhere and am hoping someone in a similar position might sympathize. Also suggestions on how to discuss the topic with someone would be helpful. I was thinking of asking someone if it would bother them to shake hands with someone else if they knew that in that persons past they had had a wart on their finger. This really sucks, hope the rest of you are dealing with it better.
Side note, I used to have plantars warts on a few fingers and I made a vinegar soaked bandage to treat them worked like a charm, they fell off in a few days.I havnt had them since and its been several years.